tell me if i did the right thing

[carlitos]

this girl flaked on me today again after i talked to her about it..but i've known her for a while so it's not the first time or anything..first few times i put up with the flaking because i didn't exactly treat her right in the beginning but after a while i talked to her about it and i dont wanna next her just like that i'd rather know that i tried and if i can get the her back as well as the control that's ideal..if not i'm still gonna stand my ground


girl
hey
me.
hey
me.
wtf u tryin to play with me
girl
what?
me.
i thought we talked about everything...and trust me i'm just as tired as u are
girl
I slept like 2 hours
girl
but thats not an excuse
me.
thats not the point u should know that
me.
ur a smart girl..
girl
it took me 1 hour to solve it...
girl
for a final thats... very fast
girl
I did good.. Im satisfied but I neeeded some sleep
me.
no the point is...theres a difference between being busy and being disrespectful
girl
not again please...
me.
i know..i'm tired of it too..for real
me.
i just thought we coulda put the games aside
me.
if i was u i'd have sent u a text at least..and its like not i'm forcing u to like me or anything..but i'm saying if u do then dont do **** like this anymore
me.
cus i would never stand u up and make u wait...or anyone for that matter
girl
why are u telling me off all the time!?!
me.
because...i'm tired of all of this hot and cold ****
me.
all i'm saying is..if u like me treat me well...and i'll do the same
me.
and if u dont i aint gonna force u
girl
u know thats not the point
girl
yes, I should of told u I would go home
girl
Im sorry... of that, I dont tyhink I have to apologize for being tired
me.
of course not..but if u just woulda told me i would totally have understood
me.
i'm not unreasonable am i?
girl
no, youre nor being unreasonable...
girl
but I tought it wouldnt bother u, it was to early to annoy u
me.
yo please...u know it wouldnt..its just a text
me.
i'd rather u tell me than making me wait
me.
thats all i'm trying to say
me.
and u should know me enough that i hate it when people give me the yes means no thing
me.
i know u probably dont like it either..and ur not a compulsive liar or anything..maybe it's cus its the way people do things here..but people are different and dont let the past affect the future thats what i'm saying
girl
I dont know..
me.
u think i'd have kept on trying if this is who u really are? come on..
girl
I asked u for 1 thing when we talked
girl
only 1
girl
remember
me.
what'd u ask me?
girl
u tell me, u were supposed to listen to me
me.
u told me many things
me.
but what do u ask of me?
girl
I asked u to be friends.. while exams lasted
girl
cuz I know how annoying I can get to be under pressure
me.
but i wouldnt even do something like this do my friends
girl
ok..
girl
Im not even a good friends
girl
thats it... why u still with me
me.
like..standing someone up is straight up disrespectful
girl
Im tired of being the one who does all bad things
me.
man dont give me this guilt trip ****..if ur right ur right if ur wrong ur wrong..we all **** up from time to time
girl
u started this...
girl
and u know what, I really dont feel like talking about this anymore
me.
i'm not saying i did everything right...and if i knew i did something wrong i'd apoligize
me.
but i'm just saying...how would u feel if ur friend did this to u? what kind of friend is that?
me.
and the only reason i let it slide so many times it's cus i didnt think i treated u right
me.
but i thought we talked about this...and if it keeps on happening i think it's crossing the line
me.
and trust me..i'd never force u to do anything that u dont want
girl
ok.
me.
but all i'm asking is..lets be straight up..thats all
girl
Ive tried to change but I cant.
girl
Im sorry... Im sorry for real...
girl
but this is me
me.
if this is who u really are then maybe i was wrong the whole time..
me.
but i dont think thats the case..
me.
and it's not like i'm trying to make a big deal out of small things...but everyone has something that makes them tweak
me.
and for me it just happens to be when ppl give me the yes means no or not keeping things real...and it's not only u i've tweaked on my friends for doing the same time
me.
thing*
girl
ur friends here?
me.
everywhere..here too
me.
i understand a lot of ppl do it because everyone else does it...but thats not who i am
girl
u cant chage ppl
girl
u wont change me.... but I havent been fake in all I told u
me.
of course i cant..like their personalities and **** and i know that..and i'm not trying to either but little things like that i believe it's just compromise
girl
can we not fight this days?...
girl
its tghe last thing we need
me.
u think i like fighting?
girl
sometimes.. I do
me.
only when something gets on my nerves..i'd fight if there's a cause but u should know that i'd never fight for no reason
girl
u like it when ur right
girl
and make me feel **** for how Ive always been
me.
only when i believe that i am actually right
me.
but u know that i'm also flexible too...i dont always have to be right..of course not
girl
Im gonna have something to eat
me.
ok go
me.
maybe it just aint meant to be..but i tried..
girl
see ya later..

 

[James45]

LOL, that conversation is somewhat entertaining.


dude.

Why bother with someone who continues to flake on you, wasting your time?

Open up a word document, and write whatever comes to your mind, just don't stop typing until you feel you've hit the answer - and you'll know when you do because it will provoke an emotional response from within.

 

[n00bPimp]

Did you do the right thing? NO, you just gave her all the power.
Just cut off your nuts and hand them to her and get it all over with.

 

[carlitos]

then what should i have done?

the only other option is to wait or next...which both wont work because this girl is more patient than i am and i'm not gonna just next someone without putting in some effort at least..

or there's something else that i dont know..

 

[stylemaker]

girl
hey
me.
hey
me.
wtf u tryin to play with me

She contacted you first and you get that mad?

me.
i thought we talked about everything...and trust me i'm just as tired as u are

There's no way to know if you are as tired as her. This could bug her in the back of her mind.

girl
I slept like 2 hours
girl
but thats not an excuse
me.
thats not the point u should know that

Basically, you conveyed that you didn't care that she's tired. She seems to feel bad about it by saying no excuse or either she's just trying to calm you down.

i just thought we coulda put the games aside

Games should be thrown away in the garbage

if i was u i'd have sent u a text at least..and its like not i'm forcing u to like me or anything..but i'm saying if u do then dont do **** like this anymore

At least you know what you want. But you might be a little too aggressive about it and you cant change her like that.

girl
why are u telling me off all the time!?!

She doesn't want to change and she's not going to this way.

me.
all i'm saying is..if u like me treat me well...and i'll do the same

She probably trying not to hurt you.

girl
but I tought it wouldnt bother u, it was to early to annoy u

It shouldn't bother you being that its only been x amount of time since we talked last. But now you're annoying me.

yo please...u know it wouldnt..its just a text

What is he talking about?

me.
and u should know me enough that i hate it when people give me the yes means no thing

She probably has no idea what this means. She's probably not focusing on the situation as much as you. She could have been protecting your feelings by not saying something that could possibly hurt you.

me.
i know u probably dont like it either..and ur not a compulsive liar or anything..maybe it's cus its the way people do things here..but people are different and dont let the past affect the future thats what i'm saying
girl
I dont know..

Ball is in her court.

u think i'd have kept on trying if this is who u really are? come on..

This is who she really is and would probably like it more if you accepted it and maybe even you would start to like how she treats you.

girl
I asked u for 1 thing when we talked
girl
only 1
girl
remember
me.
what'd u ask me?
girl
u tell me, u were supposed to listen to me
me.
u told me many things
me.
but what do u ask of me?
girl
I asked u to be friends.. while exams lasted
girl
cuz I know how annoying I can get to be under pressure
me.

She wanted to see if you could at least respect her that much even if she is doing other things besides focusing on this situation or studying.

girl
cuz I know how annoying I can get to be under pressure

No you don't. You are way more annoying than that.

and u know what, I really dont feel like talking about this anymore

respect her and don't talk about it anymore, if you care about her.

and the only reason i let it slide so many times it's cus i didnt think i treated u right

"and my weakness is, that I care too much." Don't let YOUR guilt trips control you.

girl
u wont change me.... but I havent been fake in all I told u

That was real.

girl
and make me feel **** for how Ive always been

Maybe she didn't know you considered this situation as serious as you are making it. Maybe you haven't established the relationship that you want but expect her to treat you as if you have. Maybe she hasn't considered you that type of material or maybe she doesn't want that right now.
-

IMO, let her start to focus on the situation more than you are now. Respect woman's decision making ability.

 

[Moofahsa]

Man what the fvck?

That whole conversation should have been two texts:

girl:
Hey

Me:
is for horses, CALL me when you get your **** straight

 

[Jackman]

Give me your addy. I'm going to send you a plane ticket and fly you out so I can slap you in the fvcking head.

 

[Crazy Asian]

i used to be like this when i lost control.

you try to think that you're the center of it all, that you must have total control.
Get a grip man.
you are trying to reason with her that she did something wrong.
girls don't listen to that bullsh1t.
stop trying to prove that you are right and stop caring.
don't explain to her that she did something disrespectful, SHOW her.
there's NOTHING you can explain.

Geez this reminds me of myself.
Just don't try to prove anything.
I used to try and prove that i had this great mindset and tried to show off these sosuave "ideals" (which are somewhat bs in our society).
You just end up looking like an ass.

Don't be so anal.
You have nothing to prove to the world.
People aren't gonna think you're awesome because you think you're better than girls or that you think you have the power.

I usually don't organize/think out my posts so i tend to ramble alot

 

[HandyAndy]

Give me your addy. I'm going to send you a plane ticket and fly you out so I can slap you in the fvcking head.

:crackup: :crackup: