"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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TEll me HOw You Would Have Done This Approach Better!

mackdaddy27

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okay tell me how you would have done this better


this milf at work that I think is cute and she is intersted in me as well

well yseteday as i m leaving work, the evalator stops on her floor and she gets in..

and then i have been reading her for a while now , and she gives off all the signals that she is interested, like her feet point, so i put on my confident posture, stand really straight and puff my chest in for a bit..

...the conversation was weak. and i left this without asking her out or anything because i feel that i can try again another time but please tell me what i did wrong..

shes silent, but has the smile and posture pointing towards to me

I guess i talked too much w/o syncing with her
she gets in the elevator

ME: "hey, how ya doing ?"
HB: "alright..."
ME: "Hows work?"
HB: " good...blah, blah..( I didn't hear )...How about you ?"
ME: " its really busy, right now, we're doing migration..blah ..blah I forget what I said but I kept talking a little about work"

Then the evalator stop and she gets out towards the doors


ME: " HOw long have you been working here?"
HER: " 4 years, how about you?"
ME: " About two weeks.."


THEN I REMember the stuff from mystery method that tells us to make it seem like your the prize that you are of high status, and I think that is where I ****ed up because I talked too much..and i didn't know what to talk about.. to sync with her.. it was difficult to become a chymalia and change myself in posture to sync with her becaues I didn't know what kind of guy she wants, but she shows interest in me. i know this is confusing hehe

so after remember what mystery said , I continue

ME: "thats cool...so your like a veteran hehe"
ME: "its a lot more responsilibity here, last job i was just a consultant, this job i m more of a senior level middle consultnat, and working iwth really important people like the CTO i report directly to him ( THIS IS WHERE SHE BEGINS to lose interest the way shes looking d0wn)

HER: " well loooks like a good opportunity for you "
and this is where she walks towards her car and we exchange names again

and thats it..
I know I sucked this time, but at least i know what time she leaves works so I can run into her again..

Opinions, tell me how can I improve this and how to WIN??
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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SLY

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Well, first of all talking about your job or any work related topic in general will get you nowhere.
 

Jitterbug

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ME: "thats cool...so your like a veteran hehe"
ME: "its a lot more responsilibity here, last job i was just a consultant, this job i m more of a senior level middle consultnat, and working iwth really important people like the CTO i report directly to him ( THIS IS WHERE SHE BEGINS to lose interest the way shes looking d0wn)
That's not a DHV. That's just you being a braggart, which turns her right off.
 

mackdaddy27

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Jitterbug said:
That's not a DHV. That's just you being a braggart, which turns her right off.

cool...> HOW To show A Real DHV !!

I think you hit my problem right on the nail ! I was being a braggart !

dang it, I m going to go out and Get a Copy of Mysterys Book RIght NOw I dont even understand simple terms like DHV
 

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whaa u an afc :p lol is koo i was an afc too also so what i want u to do is talk about more exciting topics man dont fucin bore the bitc nam sayin? I try to act like james bond nam sayin LOL **** and it works, all these pickup lines and **** work but u don feel good inside because u don feel creative and u feel like that its just some robotic procedure which is why i recommend yo azz be a lil bit more fresh and creative... common sense
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Evolution

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mackdaddy27 said:
okay tell me how you would have done this better


this milf at work that I think is cute and she is intersted in me as well

well yseteday as i m leaving work, the evalator stops on her floor and she gets in..

and then i have been reading her for a while now , and she gives off all the signals that she is interested, like her feet point, so i put on my confident posture, stand really straight and puff my chest in for a bit..

...the conversation was weak. and i left this without asking her out or anything because i feel that i can try again another time but please tell me what i did wrong..

shes silent, but has the smile and posture pointing towards to me

I guess i talked too much w/o syncing with her
she gets in the elevator

ME: "hey, how ya doing ?"
HB: "alright..."
ME: "Hows work?"
HB: " good...blah, blah..( I didn't hear )...How about you ?"
ME: " its really busy, right now, we're doing migration..blah ..blah I forget what I said but I kept talking a little about work"

Then the evalator stop and she gets out towards the doors


ME: " HOw long have you been working here?"
HER: " 4 years, how about you?"
ME: " About two weeks.."


THEN I REMember the stuff from mystery method that tells us to make it seem like your the prize that you are of high status, and I think that is where I ****ed up because I talked too much..and i didn't know what to talk about.. to sync with her.. it was difficult to become a chymalia and change myself in posture to sync with her becaues I didn't know what kind of guy she wants, but she shows interest in me. i know this is confusing hehe

so after remember what mystery said , I continue

ME: "thats cool...so your like a veteran hehe"
ME: "its a lot more responsilibity here, last job i was just a consultant, this job i m more of a senior level middle consultnat, and working iwth really important people like the CTO i report directly to him ( THIS IS WHERE SHE BEGINS to lose interest the way shes looking d0wn)

HER: " well loooks like a good opportunity for you "
and this is where she walks towards her car and we exchange names again

and thats it..
I know I sucked this time, but at least i know what time she leaves works so I can run into her again..

Opinions, tell me how can I improve this and how to WIN??
You need to work on your calibration.

Anyway, im guessing your probably new to the Mystery Method.

Since your just starting out, none of this is gonna make sense. Or its gonna make sense in theory, but your gonna have a hard time doing it in practice.

It took me about a year to internalize Mystery method into my being. So its comes off very natural and not just some act.

Its like learning a language, the more you practice, the more will understand it.
 

saber

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practice makes perfect but you gotta change the subject!!!

drop an innuendo or something to get the convo flirty

she has been at work all day and could probably use a laugh....

a good subject for work is elevator eyes
 

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mongolboy said:
whaa u an afc :p lol is koo i was an afc too also so what i want u to do is talk about more exciting topics man dont fucin bore the bitc nam sayin? I try to act like james bond nam sayin LOL **** and it works, all these pickup lines and **** work but u don feel good inside because u don feel creative and u feel like that its just some robotic procedure which is why i recommend yo azz be a lil bit more fresh and creative... common sense
Do you actually talk that in real life? You'd probably have more success if you didn't.
 
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