Tell her off or no? I really want to.

[The LadyKiller]

A couple of months ago, I met a HB who works at a company that my company often works with. We hit it off very quickly, went out a few times, things were good. But tonight, I realized there's some BS happening.

Tonight, I invite HB out with some of our friends. She says that sounds fun and she'll try to go. However, she texts all of my other friends who were out with us (that she met through me) to say she was at a club down the street because her girl friend dragged her there. Why couldn't she just tell me the same thing? Why? She knows we were all together.

If this was the only time, I wouldn't be making this post. But this has happened a couple of times. She talks to me more than them. She knows me better than them. But she's more eager to explain why she can't go out to my friends than to me. I take it as a sign of disrespect.

I know, I care too much. Unfortunately, I don't have many plates at the moment (I had 3-4 plates as recently as a week ago, they all crashed for different reasons). But I have to deal with this HB one way or another. She doesn't work at the same company as me and we don't deal with each other much business-wise, but we have some of the same friends and will run into each other. She also finds stupid reasons to text me and get my attention - such as asking me how do something 10 f***ing times.

Should I tell her off or ignore her completely? If I explain my annoyance, I'll get it off my chest which is good, but she'll know that I care which is not as good. If I ignore her, I might not have to deal with her, but she'll know that's not "me" and know the deal. Also, I'll be holding the frustration in. Aside from finding more plates - which I am seeking - which strategy is better?

 

[sylvester the cat]

seriously she's a grown woman who is not your gfriend. she is free to do as she pleases.

if you don't like something someone does - stay away from them.

would you chastise and keep approaching a vicious dog if it bit you the first time? no because you know that is its nature. so why expect anything else from this girl?

 

[TheException]

seriously she's a grown woman who is not your gfriend. she is free to do as she pleases.

if you don't like something someone does - stay away from them.

would you chastise and keep approaching a vicious dog if it bit you the first time? no because you know that is its nature. so why expect anything else from this girl?

This^

You deal with her......by not dealing with her. She doesnt deserve your attention.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I would leave her alone. She is not going to change and things will only get worse.

Besides ... she can't be THAT hot.

 

[Tictac]

Just ignore her.

Your ego is in the way here.

 

[VikingKing]

She likes to get a reaction out of you. Attention whovre.

 

[The LadyKiller]

I wrote this post when I got home last night after I was drinking. And let me tell you, I was LIVID on the inside. Fire-breating mad. Fortunately, I went to sleep after venting here to cool off.

Woke up to see she apologized to me about missing out last night. And it looks like I have been learning. I haven't texted her back all day and don't plan on it anytime soon.

 

[Johnny Alias]

Always sleep on it. Good call.

Alcohol is stupid. Ruins our game. I effed up with two plates in one night because of bad decisions. Being drunk just turns you into an irrational impulsive chick.

Ghost this chick. Hard. Don't respond to any texts or crap. She's stringing you along and she knows it.

I'm down to 2 plates myself. Got others I'm wanting to develop but that can take time. Might not be all bad. I've spent FAR too much of my free time spinning and not enough working on me. I suggest you do the same.