"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Tell her i have a date ? Or tell her im busy

bootypirate250

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So this girl i banged years ago has recently been back in my life and we have seen each other a few times now. nothing serious though. not even a kiss. so this story kinda falls in the category of playing hard to get (rare) and letting her know im seeing other woman (which i am) to make her a lil jealous. for the last month i have contacted her a few times to make plans but she is always busy or something. so the last msg i sent was as fallows.

hey (girls name) i have weds thurs off... wondering if you wanna hang out and chill maybe go for a walk and get some fresh air? ciao

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Hey you! I work all this week but I am busy. I'm going to a show Thursday and Friday. I have the weekend off tho!

NNever had this scenario so i need some help from the boys.

PS im new to the forum , not new to the DJ lifestyle , first post here but ive been reading for a while now.
Thanks in advance for your help.....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Comatozed

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'Sorry, I have already made plans with someone for this weekend'.

Be careful in this spot, she's not actually counter offered and you could say 'lets do saturday' only for her to say 'i'll let you know' and then flake.
 

Peña

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She sounds not interested. She busy on your days off. Did not ask to date on a day that is free for you.
 

hockeyfreak79

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A girl that you've banged in the past. You should have escalated 1st time you met up with her. Get her re-action right away that way you don't waste any time. No need to slow play past f*cks. Sounds like she just wants you as an orbiter.
 

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Hmm just go for this text: 'Ok im off aswel this weekend, let's go saturday' or 'saturday works for you'

Anything but Yes ! cool ! or No but sunday is good (example) ! means NO CONTACT

If she doesn't want to hang out at all youre going to get a text that shes so busy dududududu that's basically I like your attention but I wont hang out with you ever.

So just try to set a date for saturday or sunday if she doesnt say yes and doesnt give a counter offer NEXT !

Oh yeah and in an answer on your title. Don't tell girls you have a gf or a date or so. Just be mysterious about it. She will feel that you have girls around you. When you do have a lot of interested girls that chase you she will feel it without you mention it... That's the way to go
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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salinechow

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She has low interest. She wants your validations. If she does not agree to a date on sat or Sunday at the time and place of your choosing either be ok with just being her friend or never talk to her again. She is not into you ina romantic way. You can sleep with this girl for sure but you only have one more shot at it before you get the LJBF guillotine.
Been here and done this. Once with sucess once without. YOU NEED TO ESCALATE or move on.
 

bootypirate250

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So i have a mixed bag of answers, ive been playing NC for the last couple days. let her squirm a bit cuz im not responding
 

bootypirate250

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My idea now is to combine both the answers i have gotten here kinda.

msg i will send tomorrow after 4 days NC......

"Hey girl. i have plans on friday and saturday. on sunday im taking you to the theme park."

so ill be combining tacs of being busy and assuming the sale by not giving her a choice.

Thoughts from seniors and masters?
 
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