tell girls about trajegdy?

[Big Eee Zee]

I'm working this hot biddy. I've been sorta down lately because I have a health crisis in my family (its real bad.) She noticed and asked me whats wrong. Should I tell her what it is? Either:

1.) she will feel bad and try to comfort me, thus being a good oportunity to make some kino (good)

2.) she will think of me as a great friend for telling her whats happening. (bad)

So is it better to tell girls whats bugging you when they ask, or just be vague?

 

[Skweints]

That all depends on what you say to her. If you tell her, be brief about it, give her the general idea and how it makes you feel... then change the subject and move on to something else, something happier. "Oh, I'm having some problems in my family... blah blah blah... but I don't want to dwell on it! Let's party! "

When you ramble on and on, eventually, it's going to put her into a bad mood, and it's gonna lower her interest level. This is why you keep it short and sweet. I even remember reading in one of Mystery's articles that girls fall for this stuff hard core. It's kind of funny, I feel that expressing heavy emotion to a woman is a cheesy tactic, but the facts are it works... as long as you appear genuine about it.

 

[Big Eee Zee]

well, good. I told her about it in a quick 5 minute shat and she seemed genuinely worried about me. She said I seemed distant lately, though, which is a problem. I try not to let things like this get to me.

Well, just have to work harder I guess

 

[Sugar Bee]

Tell all.

 

[MindOverMatter]

Do what you want, but using a family health crisis to get into some girls pants is weak, disrespectful to your family, and screams of weak game.

 

[RiceHapa888]

tell her - show your emotions freely (no crying though)
but make sure to put an optimistic twist at the end.
maybe tell a funny story about how cool the person was (say if someone or a pet died, etc.)

 

[Big Eee Zee]

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
Do what you want, but using a family health crisis to get into some girls pants is weak, disrespectful to your family, and screams of weak game.

No, dumba$$. I ain't using a crisis to improve my game, I'm just asking if sharing feelings with her is gonna hurt my future with her.

Freaking duh.

 

[Kerensky]

No you're subconciously trying to get with her or close to her through this.

Don't do it. You're a pity wh*re and no one likes those. Also, like MindOverMatter said, don't use your family like this especially in bad conditions.

Lastly, no girl gives a DAMN about your problems. They will nod and aww you for 5 minutes but the words just go in one ear and out the next.

 

[Skweints]

Subconsiously? How do you figure? It's not like he's told the girl anything at all. If anything, he's subconsiouly trying NOT to tell her. I think it's apparent that he knows that going on and on about your problems is only going to get you into the friend zone.

As far as no girl giving a sh*t about, say, MY problems, every girl that I've ever talked to (and these girls are the ones I consider my friends, not potentials), every single one of them have always cared about what I had to say. Maybe you just meet the b*tches or something, but I'd have to say, you really don't know anything about women at all. Besides, decent women will feel a connection if you can be semi-open with them, telling them you wouldn't tell just ANYBODY. Hence, why it's so successful with Mystery. (If you don't know what I'm talking about, find some of his stuff and read it.)

But, to give you some advice on your situation now, Big Eee Zee... for some reason, which I haven't figured out myself, becoming distant with a female who generally cares about you will just cause them to become distant, usually due to their IL dropping and their "He must not like me anymore, I must've said something wrong." thought process. I'd suggest talking to her like you normally used to talk to her, and if she still doesn't respond, either next her, or keep her as a friend for now, and ask her what the h*ll her problem is.

 

[MindOverMatter]

1.) she will feel bad and try to comfort me, thus being a good oportunity to make some kino (good)

No, dumba$$. I ain't using a crisis to improve my game

right...

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Sugar Bee
Tell all.

And this is why I posted the thread Why Women Give Bad Dating Advice . Bee, maybe if you elaborate on why you feel he should tell all.

My thought is that Big EZ isn't in a relationship with this woman although he may want to establish one. There may be some women who feel that they have a need to save every stray puppy, but more time than most it seems like they are being used as a dumping ground when guys open up with something like a personal tragedy. Yeah, that would make me want to hang out with a person .

It would be different if there was a commitment already established and having one another as a soft place to fall is a part of a healthy relationship. Until then, there are reasons why professional help and family is available. Until then it's not usually a good thing to burden other people who aren't necessarily close to you with such problems.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by Skweints
That all depends on what you say to her. If you tell her, be brief about it, give her the general idea and how it makes you feel... then change the subject and move on to something else, something happier. "Oh, I'm having some problems in my family... blah blah blah... but I don't want to dwell on it! Let's party! "

When you ramble on and on, eventually, it's going to put her into a bad mood, and it's gonna lower her interest level. This is why you keep it short and sweet. I even remember reading in one of Mystery's articles that girls fall for this stuff hard core. It's kind of funny, I feel that expressing heavy emotion to a woman is a cheesy tactic, but the facts are it works... as long as you appear genuine about it.

This is good advice.

Use this as a chance to show how strong you are. Tell her about it. but then show her how well you are dealing with it. Don't whine and complain like a girl. Be a man and be strong.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Well, do you want her to fvck you silly or do you want her to be your mother?

If you play the sympathy card that's exactly what you'll get. Don't think for a second that working this angle will make you 'stronger for being sensitive' in her impression of you. This works in 'Romantic Comedy' movies, not in real life. It will defeat your intent from both approaches - if you want to bang her and move on, you'll never get past her 'empathy' for you and if you want an LTR you'll be starting it (assuming it starts at all) from a 'pity' impression, not one of mutual passion.

Crocodile tears wont get you laid, trust me.