Tell a chick who dumped you that you are bitter

[chatoh]

Hi guys !
I wish you guys a nice Holiday Season.
I wanted to know if it is Ok to express or tell a chick who dumped you, that your are bitter with her because she broke your heart ?
Thanks for the advice.

 

[LostAndConfused]

I wouldn't. It will justify in her mind why she broke you up, and she'll be more confident in her decision. Who would want to be going out with a bitter guy anyways?

Move on. Next her. Be done with her. Play a sport you like, do SOMETHING to get her off your mind. She might even call back and realize she made a mistake, if you let her mull it over and don't talk to her at all, showing that you don't really need her to be HAPPY as a human being.

 

[The Forms]

Once she dumps you you don't need to contact her at all. Doing this will only make it drag out longer. It's over with now, and you need to do what you need to do to move on.

Anyhow, the last thing you want to do is give her the satisfaction of knowing she broke your heart. As far as she's concerned, you moved on the second she called it off and couldn't care less about her at this point.

 

[KontrollerX]

No.

In a moral world saying that would make a person feel guilt and feel ashamed of themselves.

In the real world she'll just get a sick thrill from the belief that she meant enough to you that you had to contact her and inform her that she evoked emotional pain in you.

In other words she'll get an ego boost for her treachorous act.

Even if she apologizes it means nothing with another man's c0ck in her mouth.

Apologies are not real unless the offending behaviour stops.

Even though we mock Dr. Phil here I like how spoke of how a true apology is supposed to go...

"Its easier for me to forgive someone for stompin on my foot, if they stop stompin on my foot!" lol.

 

[DJDamage]

No.

In a moral world saying that would make a person feel guilt and feel ashamed of themselves.

In the real world she'll just get a sick thrill from the belief that she meant enough to you that you had to contact her and inform her that she evoked emotional pain in you.

In other words she'll get an ego boost for her treachorous act.

Even if she apologizes it means nothing with another man's c0ck in her mouth.

:yes:

 

[KarmaSutra]

Even if she apologizes it means nothing with another man's c0ck in her mouth.

It's so hard to say I'm sorry while chuggin ****ory Farms big ol' meatstick.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Use the experience to motivate yourself to improve yourself, the best revenge is if you succeed. Then brag to her about your success instead and say you are now successful and are now even with her if you must say anything.

 

[chatoh]

KontrollerX said "No.

In a moral world saying that would make a person feel guilt and feel ashamed of themselves.

In the real world she'll just get a sick thrill from the belief that she meant enough to you that you had to contact her and inform her that she evoked emotional pain in you.

In other words she'll get an ego boost for her treachorous act."

Thanks for the advice guys.
This gal I am talking about is 37 years old, almost 38. She´s not a young college gal. What I mean, is that I am not talking about a 20 year old girl.
I am two years younger than her. Since she dumped me, I´ve talked to her a few times on the phone (as friends) and I have seen her twice. On the first time we saw each other after the break up we talked about our gone relationship, and she stuck to her guns that she just wouldn´t be with me anymore, even though I told her we could work things out and that I liked her. On the second occasion we just had a couple of drinks as friends. I NEVER brought up the subject of going back to her, NEVER or saying that I had feelings for her. I just stuck to a friendly chat, as I would have with some office colleague or old friend. However, I still feel heart broken, and I would like to tell this gal, how devasted I felt when she dumped me and that I still miss her. The point I wanted to let her know is that she HURT ME when she dumped me. It is not that I want her to feel pity for me, but I feel the need to spill out my guts and let her know how I felt, and probably feel up to now. Let her know that I am not some stone cold guy whose heart can just be ripped apart. After all I am a human being, and getting dumped after having feelings for her hurt me.

 

[Leporello]

No. It'll just give her more power over you.

Telling people how mean they treated you almost never elicits "Oh, I'm so sorry! I must make it up to you!" nut rather 'Screw you, you self-pitying creep'.

 

[chatoh]

Thanks for the advice Leporello. So that theory applies even to MATURE women too , I suppose ? I thought it was only for young imature chicks.

 

[KontrollerX]

Nope chatoh.

Unfortunately it applies to chicks of all ages.

If you were to do this she may do the whole sorry routine as a gesture so she can pretend that she is a kind and good person but inside that is not how she will be feeling.

She'll feel empowered and get an ego boost from you spilling your guts out to her.

Put it this way we sosuavers on an anonymous internet forum care more about you and your pain than she does at this point.

If you're going to spill your guts about this kind of pain to anyone do it with close friends, family or us you know people who actually care about you in the world.

 

[Potbelly]

Don't do it man. Happy holidays to you as well.

 

[MikeEdward1973]

If you're looking for her to take you back, you know that won't happen.

If you're looking for revenge, and hoping that she'll feel as bad as you do, that won't happen either.

The sooner you meet someone else, the less you will care about her.

 

[chatoh]

Thanks for your advice.
Luckily I read your answers, because I was also considerig another strategy - tell this girl about how happy I used to be when I was with her, and now this happpiness is gone by not being the two of us together.
If I did this would this be an AFC (nice guy) move ????

 

[the_absolute]

I always tell chicks that I outmaneuvered so they thought they were going to leave and lure me back, I'm miserable and bitter- but that I'm working hard to get over the terrible sadness.

Of course it's all 100% BS. In reality I'm over the moon with relief that I got out of a sticky situation. I just tell them this because it usually makes them feel better and they stop trying to sabotage my affairs elsewhere.

What you really need to be asking yourself is, why are you being so lame and feeling like you're "broken hearted"? Just go out there and catch some more, higher quality poon. Navel contemplation is for prisoners and eunuchs, my man. Chin up and full speed ahead!

 

[KontrollerX]

Yeah it'll still be an AFC move that will convey the same message to her we've already explained chatoh.

There's nothing productive you can do for yourself except move on.

I'm sorry brother.

 

[PrinceBeavis]

Proper Indifference is one of the DJ's main attributes. So, no, don't tell her squat.