"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Teen- Bad time to DJ

Fender

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Adolescence can really be a B*tch. Messes your mind, hormones go out of whack, etc.

I see many people here who have MORE than just girl problems- they have LIFE problems. No friends, bullying, family, confidence issues and other crazy stuff. So my advice is this-

unless your life is pretty good and smooth, don't bother dealing with chicks.

improve your life first, or else you're just wasting your time. Things like social skills, confidence, ther ability to stand up for yourself, etc. are WAAAAAY more important than macking skills. Many High schoolers are just juggling about 50 million tasks. Not smart.

I've given up TRYING to get chicks now. I'm just improving my life by increasing social skills, making friends, working out, getting better grades. If girls are interested in me, great! But otherwise, I coulnd't care less.

-fender-
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Your technique could work, but my friend is macking on the "slu t" so anyways, by macking on the girls people want to be with him.

I see your point but, this could come off as AFC, in that your afraid to apporch(but i know you really don't care, so don't reply saying that you dont care)

LATE
 

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I agree with your post :up:

If I could just get my life sorted out than I would be happy regardless if I had a girlfriend or not.
 
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Your completely right, a lot of people here want quick fixes to their life problems just by posting a thread.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Got it in one, mate! Thats what i've been saying to all my mates. They seem to think i'm 'frigid' because i haven't been with a girl before. Ever. It's because I have higher priorities. Good to see that others are like me as well. :up:
 

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Originally posted by danrizzy
Got it in one, mate! Thats what i've been saying to all my mates. They seem to think i'm 'frigid' because i haven't been with a girl before. Ever. It's because I have higher priorities. Good to see that others are like me as well. :up:
Dude, picking up girls can and is an aside to your life, but do not use your life as an excuse for not fulfilling yourself. Hell, im still a virgin, but through choice not through lack of choice. Just work on what you want, but dont totally skip out a whole section of your life.
 

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Ok, this is true. Lot's of guys can't get chicks, because they have other problems. Part of easily getting girls, is to have your lif ein order, so you can be a fun laid back guy.

There is no easy solution to any problem, except most Algebra, imo.

It takes time and effort. Good luck.
 

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Ye, I agree with you guys, "a bad life" is not an excuse for you to sit back and cr*p your pants. DO SMTHING about it!!!

But sometimes I see posts like

"I have no friends. my dad is beating me up with a club. a 7 foot dude is bullying me at school. i have some strange crazy disease that no ones ever heard about. I weigh 70/300 pounds. and i STILL CAN"T get a GIRL"

Dude, i don't really think girls are his main problem now...

prioritize. chicks aren't as important as your hormones are telling you.

-fender-
 

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and ironically by not going after girls they;ll probab;y be one that comes along that is attracted to you because you;re not going after her.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by kidkoala
and ironically by not going after girls they;ll probab;y be one that comes along that is attracted to you because you;re not going after her.
that's not true. I hate this DJ, principle b/c it gets confusing way too easily. If you don't go after girls and wait for them to come to you. Unless you're super-model hot, you better expect to remain lonely for a long time....
 
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Originally posted by DJ_in_making
that's not true. I hate this DJ, principle b/c it gets confusing way too easily. If you don't go after girls and wait for them to come to you. Unless you're super-model hot, you better expect to remain lonely for a long time....
Duh if u just sit on ur ass hopin for the chicks to come to u, well ur chance of that hapenin is like 1 of a billion. When they say dont go after the girl they means like dont chase after them lke some desperate loser or even worst an AFC. Ur right tho alot of this is confusin becuase everybody have a different style of mackin, or aproachin, spittin game at chicks. ect. I myself get confus somtimes but as time past u will start to develope ur own style.
 

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no disrespect to anyone, but I do not feel that opinion is COMPLETELY valid. The simple fact is, learning the ways of a DJ seems to be


Improving your life.

I'm a psychology buff, so learning confidence, social skills, business skills, women skills, etc. is not only what every teenager SHOULD be learning is school, it's essential to any young person. Yes, you become a VERY busy person, but that just means you're not some idle schmuck wasting their time. Dig?
 

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I don't agree with you at all - DJing was my escape to a serious depression and depersonalization.. I had a past experience with drug use & just had random depression, too deep to go into. Yeah, so I decided to set getting girls as my goal, blah, now the summers over, school tomorrow, and I'm fcukin proud of myself. I got with 17 HB7-10s this summer.. and yeah, and I've imporved everywhere else in life. Hoping this year of school will go smooth. It all depends on your situation, some people can use women as an escape, some can't.
 

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I was just tired of being un popular, so I made friends, and ****, and I moved, adn all sorts of **** happened to me.

I found sosuave by accident, like the beggining of Summer, adn glad I found it btw.

I use my DJ skills, to be a better version of me, and to make awesome friends. Girls are a motivation, but not my biggest concern.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by benassi
I don't agree with you at all - DJing was my escape to a serious depression and depersonalization.. I had a past experience with drug use & just had random depression, too deep to go into. Yeah, so I decided to set getting girls as my goal, blah, now the summers over, school tomorrow, and I'm fcukin proud of myself. I got with 17 HB7-10s this summer.. and yeah, and I've imporved everywhere else in life. Hoping this year of school will go smooth. It all depends on your situation, some people can use women as an escape, some can't.
I would call that improving yourself... wouldn't you? :D
 
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