Technology has turned men into Wussies

[tryst type]

A friend and i were having a discussion and a light went off in my head. Now a days especially the younger/new generation which are born accustomed to multiple ways of communication ie Facebook, texting, email, IMs. There is WAY too many ways for a woman of getting the attention she so much craves.

Not only that but it gives a guy way too many options of unwittingly showing her TOO much attention, thus giving her what she's looking for and making it hard, if not killing his chances of getting another "date"

Because of this, it unbalances a guy's strength towards a more desperate/needy attitude. Think about it, she is getting approval every minute, every hour, every day! from someone. Of course this is going to boost a girl's ego and thus act unimpressed, aloof, disinterested towards the male population. Even if she meets her match, she can keep her ego above water from the numerous amounts of texts she probably receives, to the endless compliments online. She can easily be distracted having her ego fix and make it harder for a guy who's a "challenge" to keep trying harder and inevitably possibly turn him into a wuss digging for her attention.

Technology is killing our game because the attention is being provided in more than one way. A new pic a day on Facebook and she's good to go for a week with a superior feeling of acceptance. This isn't the same with a guy, it's almost reversing the dynamics.

 

[Andy_Dufresne]

The answer is simple. Social networking of any kind is a panacea. Go traditional, focus on personal, face to face encounters.

 

[tryst type]

The answer is simple. Social networking of any kind is a panacea. Go traditional, focus on personal, face to face encounters.

Yes but what i'm getting at, is, even with face to face encounters. They are still getting approval and acceptance in the digital world. This keeps them having a healthy sense of self. Maybe a little TOO much sense of self. Making guys try harder and harder and inevitably failing and the girls not being so affected by it. Because they're still getting that attention fix constantly.

 

[Andy_Dufresne]

....you're ovethinking this.

I'm looking back on some number closes from my recent past:

1. Grocery Stores
2. Wal Mart
3. Staples
4. Work
5. Adult Roller Skating (I'm a pretty good skater)
6. Pig Roast
7. Hiking

I'm not a firm believer in facebook as a macking tool, I think a lot of people are getting carried away with it rather than using it for its intended purpose, which is keeping in touch with old friends/colleagues. Sh^t, Zuckerberg has billions and he STILL can't pull tail.

 

[f283000]

Yes but what i'm getting at, is, even with face to face encounters. They are still getting approval and acceptance in the digital world. This keeps them having a healthy sense of self. Maybe a little TOO much sense of self. Making guys try harder and harder and inevitably failing and the girls not being so affected by it. Because they're still getting that attention fix constantly.

This is a very good point which I had not thought of before.

I think this gives even more power to jerks and bad boys for a simple reason. When you think about it these females with all the attention they get online they think of themselves as little celebrities in their own mind. So when they go out outside the home they have a greater sense of confidence/ego and entitlement about themselves. So when you try to hit on a girl that already gets ton of male attention online it's going to make you work that much harder.

This is where jerks and bad boys come in. Guy's who bring women down to a low level and bring down their level of self worth below theirs. Nobody benefits more from the online trend then these type of men.

 

[tryst type]

This is a very good point which I had not thought of before.

I think this gives even more power to jerks and bad boys for a simple reason. When you think about it these females with all the attention they get online they think of themselves as little celebrities in their own mind. So when they go out outside the home they have a greater sense of confidence/ego and entitlement about themselves. So when you try to hit on a girl that already gets ton of male attention online it's going to make you work that much harder.

This is where jerks and bad boys come in. Guy's who bring women down to a low level and bring down their level of self worth below theirs. Nobody benefits more from the online trend then these type of men.

Exactly. I'm glad you see the point i'm trying to make. The world we live in today has very much skewed the female/male interaction/dynamic. We all know women use vanity for attention, we all know very seldom men get that same attention from vanity. Advertising yourself online makes any women feel self-worth regardless who's paying her a compliment, from her family, friends, to dismissible guys. She simply will have a hard time feeling she's not one to be desired.

I believe this is why in this day an age, men try harder, seek more "techniques" and come across vast amounts of barriers. We're all unwittingly trying to break through the thick wall of esteem these women are stacking up on a daily basis.

Even the bad boy/jerks who can manage to bring her level down enough to win her attention for a while will eventually lose once they get the attention they want from them. Even in the slightest!

 

[Darth]

You know what, I was at a friends house last night playing cards with 7 other guys. We just played cards and talked and drank for hours, well into the night.

It hit me this morning that your entire life could be like that if you wanted it to be.

I had more fun last night than I've had for a long time. Nobody texting, nobody with their cell phone out. Everyone had their shirt tucked in. It was like an 80's flashback (although, these guys were mostly in their 30's...so actually they ARE from the 80s).

The point being, you can't get away from the internet now because it's now being used for so much work and school- related stuff. But otherwise, who's holding a gun to your head? Try shutting down the computer and the cell phone when you don't have to be on it, and get creative.

You might just find that you're happier for it.

I started doing this awhile ago. At first I was really shocked. I thought it would be easy, but all I thought about was getting back on the computer. My creativity was so dulled that my first instinct when I had any down time, or when I came back to my house, was to get on the computer.

But then it started getting easier and easier. Yesterday I checked out about 5 books from the library. Tomorrow I'm going out to a dance hall.

And you know what, I really do feel like less of a wussy. Play life on your terms, not on the terms of the creator of Facebook or the inventors of cell phones.

 

[Strelok]

If here was no need for guys to have girls around them in order to have social approval or there was no stigma on cronically single guys,there would be no courting at all since most of the guys would rely on porn as much as girls rely on cyber validation.
Guys want sex,girls attention and both gived and toke reciprocrally in past,but now things changed due to culture and technology.

I bet whatever you want that guys hitting on average or ugly girls are doing that just because having a girl is some kind of approval mark that open you the door of the "cool people club".

For girls there's no stigma in being single especially after this independet/empowered woman model spread in the last 20 years.