Technique to eliminate flaking

[poohead]

I have been formulating a technique to eliminate flaking with HB's you've # closed but only communicated with for a few minutes, like online girls or women you sarge but haven't put any time into comfort building - the usual suspects.:box:

Here is my theory -

1. # close, set up the date
2. when you set it up, word it like
'let's go out for coffee on friday'
<ok>
'great! i'll call you on friday and we'll talk about it'

this is the typical HB tactic where they give themselves that little bit of an 'out' in case they don't feel like it and want to flake out. DO IT TO THEM PREEMPTIVELY.
They will recognize you are a man who knows the game.

-on the day of the date, call them and say 'something came up <make up some excuse, make it believable>'.

-wait several days/weeks ... then WATCH. when you eventually set something else up, she will not flake, in fact she will be very eager to see you!

has anyone tried this?

 

[Stackthestyles]

Try to double book dates.

When the time comes for the call, you don't have to lie. It is a real and believable.

 

[poohead]

that sounds mean though. at least one of your dates will wind up getting hurt. this way it is just a little white lie.

 

[Stackthestyles]

Yours is just as mean. A lie is a lie whichever way you look at it.

 

[poohead]

no it's not. you are not manipulating a 3rd person. and you are rescheduling with her, you are not asking her out as a possible 'safety net' in case someone you like better flakes out on you.

Look, we're not here to argue which is more mean, but if this works. After all, these are techniques HB's have been using on us -- without guilt -- since forever. Let's try this out.

 

[IM0001]

heh. up until now i have a record of 4 flakes on the same day/nite/event lol. their loss because i had a blast while they were home alone or whatever. I hold a sorta 3 strikes ruel. Flake on me 3 times without ANY good reason. (if its truethfull or something ill let it slide but i get an amazing ammount of the "My friends ex-wifes, 1st cousins, 2nd brother is having a tooth pulled and needs emotional support" sorta excuses lol. Or just the basic "I cant make it tonight excuse which really is just a looser way out"
The present girl im with has yet to flake on any of my events and we always have a great time every time. Ahh what the others have missed out on.

THE POWER OF BOB!

 

[poohead]

3 flakes sounds like way too much. 1 strike and you're out for me. I'm interested in trying this technique to eliminate flakes altogether.

 

[Nighthawk]

Flaking a date because you're too busy can raise attraction levels very well. It's the opposite of desperation and will trigger the 'does he really like me?' feeling, which is advantageous.

If she flakes on you there must be punishment.