"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Technique for keeping a straight face

ligyron

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For those having trouble keeping a straight face I have a tip for you I'd like you to try out

Some people crack up when they're nervous, or after delivering a funny line, or in poker when they have a monster hand!

The next time you're in this situation, keep talking to yourself in your head about the situation until the feeling to laugh goes away. For example, someone's giving you a weird/funny look for whatever reason, say to yourself (don't just think, SAY and focus on those words) something like, "What's he/she looking at? That's a weird look, kind of funny. I wonder what that's all about. He/she probably has something to say" etc

Practice on a video you find uncontrollably funny. Instead of just watching, talk yourself through all the funny parts. The idea is to substitute laughing with talking, so you won't have so much of a need to laugh. Try it out, and I hope that it allows you to keep a straight face when necessary
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bvbidd

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Is this board about poker? No it's about girls. You NEVER want to have a straight face around girls, they find it boring. This is the anti-tip.
 

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Bvbidd said:
Is this board about poker? No it's about girls. You NEVER want to have a straight face around girls, they find it boring. This is the anti-tip.
Poker was just one example. Girls find a straight face boring? That's an interesting generalization

There are some people (especially shy people) that smile and giggle uncontrollably in social situations, which will ruin the chances of anyone taking them seriously because it's just weird and inappropriate. I know a guy that will start to giggle every time you start a conversations with him

Also, if you're in bed and you're trying to talk sexy to your girl, it's not going to work if you have an exaggerated smile on your face and you keep cracking up laughing every 5 seconds, you're just going to creep the other person out

That's who this thread is for. Lighten up
 

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Yeah I have a giggle fit randomly sometimes. Sometimes it's uncontrollable...I don't care when its happening but after that it's really embarassing. I think I'll use this tip man. Thanks a lot.

I find it useful in social situations to keep a straight face, not in the BORING sense, but in the I HAVE CONTROL OVER MYSELF AND MY ACTIONS sense.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Bvbidd said:
Is this board about poker? No it's about girls. You NEVER want to have a straight face around girls, they find it boring. This is the anti-tip.
Yeah, being stoic is overrated. There are times to be serious but when something is funny it feels good to laugh at it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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There are some people that giggle and laugh inappropriately (like when a girl looks at them, or a guy asks them a difficult question, etc). It's something that's hard for them to control, and it's one of the reasons they may avoid social situations a lot

My technique is to help those people deal with that part of their life. It's a common problem many people struggle with. If it isn't a problem for you, then my technique was not posted for you. I tried to make it clear that was the purpose in the two posts I made here, but I guess I failed
 
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