Teasing in HS

[Furnezz]

Hey what's up DJs (first post ^^)? So I've always been that AFC/nice guy (which has been changing of course) so teasing girls never really came natural to me =/ A lot of the times I try doing it, it just seems to come out as an insult (making me look like an ass), yet I always see guys doing it and the girl gives a positive response (as in she tries to qualify herself to the guy) =/

I know it's kinda a broad question, since teasing is more of a situation specific thing. I just need advise on how to do it, some good examples would be much appreciated (specifically how to tease in HS, but any scenario will do good)

Btw, what is C+F?

 

[WalkingStick]

Stay away from "teasing" her about things like appearance until you know she's self-confident or interested. Even then, use it sparingly. A lot of girls in high-school don't have great self image, don't make it worse.

Push-pull is a good idea. Balance compliments and interest with teasing and disinterest. You'll get a feel for it and know when it's working.

Since I don't know your specific situation/group of friends, the best advice I can give is to watch the guys who are sucessfully teasing. Keep in mind they might be closer to the girls and take those kinds of things into account.

Any time you're teasing, make sure she knows it's a joke.

C+F stands for ****y + Funny. Search for some threads on it.

Good Luck

 

[War Against Betaism]

In high school there's a comfort level that needs to be built first before you can really tease. You will know just by instinct when you start teasing, don't do it excessively though, even though that douchebag David DeAngelo tells you to.

Also, the most effective way to tease a girl is to add in some kino. Kino builds comfort. Let's think of teasing as sort of a positive and negative while kino is a double positive. When you tease without kino you sort of stay neutral, but eventually it just starts becoming a negative. When you add in kino, you get even closer to her.

You heard of the principle that communication is like 10% words, 90% voice tone and facial expressions. Well, I actually like to think it as 10% words, 60% voice tone facial expressions, and 40% positional stance. So let's say that you tease her when you're talking to her face to face. It's not going to get you the results as if you were talking to her when you're right beside her. Though you'll also get better results if you added in kino to the mix. Kino is very important because it adds in a sense of comfort and familiarity.

 

[SinJester]

It's not what you say but how you say it. If you are worried about it coming accross as an insult it probably will.

 

[Furnezz]

Thanks, very helpful replies.
I'm gonna try to tease tomorrow and see how it goes. I'm not too great at using a good tone of voice so I'll have to practice that >.<

Btw, what is neg? I've been slowly reading the bible and I'm still not too sure what all the terms mean.

 

[dj_jazzybrad]

In my opinion, negging is pretty much akin to teasing as described in your situation

 

[Furnezz]

Oh so is it like a bad/AFC form of teasing?

Anyways... DJ-wise I had a GREAT day today, I'm finally breaking out of my AFC ways. The day started out **** but I didn't let that bring me down. I talked to this girl a lot in one class and teased her succesfully once (about something kinda weird/dumb that she said; I made sure she knew I was joking). This chick is pretty popular and is like an HB 8.5ish. Anyways, in turn I think another girl (HB 8^^) in my class got kinda jealous, I caught her staring at me a few seconds after I teased the other girl; she ended up approaching me later on, which as AFC as it sounds, I was pretty happy about cause no girl's shown interest in me in over like a year and a half (for being so AFC -.-). We just had a very short convo though, no kino involved =/ I'll approach her tom, I'm not too interested in her though but I barely know her, so that could change. After that, since I was successful with teasing, I though I'd try it on someone else, I tried it on these two girls and they completely ate it up, haha, they were following me around for a while so I used some push/pull which also turned out good This was all a big improvement for me because I've never been good with girls =P

Once again, thanks again for the advice, I really focused on tone of voice and including kino. Looks like I'm well on my way to becoming a DJ

 

[dj_jazzybrad]

nope i don't think negging is afc at all
it's very useful, as you saw today

 

[SinJester]

Neg is a PUA term. Definitely not AFC, although not always recommended. Technically it's a very small insult designed to make a girl slightly insecure in order to make your perceived value higher, or to break through b!tch shields. Simply it's very similar to teasing.

 

[littleman0603]

girls like jack asses. just dont be like "ur fat" or "ur hair doesnt look so good today".

 

[SinJester]

girls like jack asses.

They also like good blokes who are attractive. You don't have to be a jerk to attract girls.