"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sup guys there is this chick i have been friends with for around a year.. Anyways me and her and about 4 other friends leave the local bar to goto a bigger club in town..
Me and her ride together and we are the first ones there. So we go inside and have a drink while waiting on the others. She grabs my hand and holds it while we walk around and says we shoudl pretend like boyfriend/girlfriend and see how the others react when they come in. Im not really digging this chick she is a strong 6 but she just isnt my type.. So when she grabs my hand i guess i gave her negative body language because she let go about a minute later... When the others show up she grabs my hand and tells them i am her new boyfriend.. I just smile and let go of her hand. We find a seat later and were all sitting having a drink and she gets up to leave and comes back with a rose.. She lays the rose in front of me and starts laughing.
Anyways about 30 minutes later a hip hop song comes on and a guy who was with us gets up to dance. He tells me and my 2 friends to come dance and i was like no thanks i dont dance to often.
Anyways the guy kept busting my balls about dancing and telling me i was no fun.. Shortly after the chick started to ignore me and act like i had a disease. So do yall think she acted that way because i didnt get up to dance or because i was slightly rejecting her all night?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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jophil28

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pokerlife said:
So do yall think she acted that way because i didnt get up to dance or because i was slightly rejecting her all night?
She tried all her tricks on you and none of them worked.You pushed "indifference" too far and she decided to hit Delete on you.

The "indifference " theory does not work under these conditions.( Read Guru on 'Value' ) Women need a minimum amount of attention and positive vibe from you to maintain their interest and to want to hang with you. Would you stay around a chick who sent you NO buying signals -all night ?

Anyways, if you have no interest in this woman ,why post about her ? Who cares what she did..
 

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it sounds like YOU don't know what you want.
 

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If she's a 6, go find a 8 or 9. Please.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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