Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Teach me how to fight

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I'll be going to college soon and I'll probably need to deal with my fair share of douchebags. I have a black belt in Kenpo Karate and played plenty of football, so I know I can take and deal punishment. But I never had formal MMA training.

So...teach me how to fight. I'm 6ft tall 180lbs if that matters.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The Experience

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Watch some Russian systema
 

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How did you get the karate black belt? How long did it take? Is that a youth rank or adult? Have you competed in any tournaments?

I'd say to just continue your formal instruction in martial arts. Get better at striking and then pick up a grappling art like wrestling or jiu-jitsu. If you can't afford lessons, there might be a club at your school that practices together.

The more well-trained you become, the less interested you will be in getting into street fights. That's just one of the many benefits of martial arts.
 

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BPH said:
I'll be going to college soon and I'll probably need to deal with my fair share of douchebags. I have a black belt in Kenpo Karate and played plenty of football, so I know I can take and deal punishment. But I never had formal MMA training.

So...teach me how to fight. I'm 6ft tall 180lbs if that matters.
You're not going to learn sh1t about scrapping from words on a screen. Get out of the house, scout a local MMA gym that fits your bill, and hit the mat.

That is all.

~ Senzoi
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I would advise you to try to avoid fighting as much as possible to avoid criminal charges and all that **** on your record. But sometimes you gotta kick some ass I know(been there before). Only advice I can give to you other than to go to a boxing or MMA gym is to stay in good condition. Most are not going to be willing to fight you if you are jacked, and 99% of the dudes are dumb enough to ACTUALLY fight you are going to get their ass kicked cause they will gas in 20 seconds and have a glass chin while you will not. If the person is taller than you keep it inside, if they are shorter use your reach.
 

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Ok I don't know how to multi-quote, so I'm just going to address a few things.

1. I don't expect to learn how to fight from text on a screen. I'm hoping somebody will point me in the direction of videos that can teach certain techniques (pressure point, disabling, etc.)

2. I wouldn't get criminal charges if I were defending myself from somebody who is 18 years or older, and stopped when I had won. But I expect that I'll have to deal with some rowdy guys in college after they get drunk at a bar or I end up with a girl they lost.

3. I feel like these questions were rhetorical but I finished Kenpo Karate with a black belt after 7 years at the age of 14. It is a youth rank because I was not really big and tall and didn't practice with adults. Competed in 3 tournaments. Always finished 1st in sparring and placed among the top 3 in Kata.

I'd like to learn pressure points because that could teach me how to end a fight before it even had the chance to begin.
 

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Sorry, but it just doesn't work that way. Learning from books and videos can only give you ideas for training with a real-life sparring partner and trainer. Otherwise, you will just develop bad habits in form and a false sense of confidence. I would prefer quality in-person instruction in any martial art over training off youtube. I don't care if it's Tae Kwon Do. 'Kick 'em in the nuts and run away before the cops arrive' is the best street fighting move you're ever going to learn anyway :D
 

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You sound as if you go looking for trouble.

People who go looking for fights are arseholes who will make nothing of their lives.

How about going back and learning another martial art, i.e. how to defend yourself
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Shockwavedave said:
You sound as if you go looking for trouble.

People who go looking for fights are arseholes who will make nothing of their lives.

How about going back and learning another martial art, i.e. how to defend yourself
Do you really think that after spending 4 years in college...between parties and hanging out at bars, that I won't come across some d!ckhead drunk off his stool that wants to fight?

I just want to know how to end a conflict quickly. Doesn't mean I have to beat the crap out of him, I just want to know how to disable somebody. Got me thinking after somebody posted a clip from Louie on the Discussion Forum where a guy tried to pick a fight with Louie.

I just want to be ready for things like that.

And as far as learning another martial art, I'd want to learn boxing, I don't know if my college has any clubs like that though.
 

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BPH said:
Do you really think that after spending 4 years in college...between parties and hanging out at bars, that I won't come across some d!ckhead drunk off his stool that wants to fight?

I just want to know how to end a conflict quickly. Doesn't mean I have to beat the crap out of him, I just want to know how to disable somebody. Got me thinking after somebody posted a clip from Louie on the Discussion Forum where a guy tried to pick a fight with Louie.

I just want to be ready for things like that.

And as far as learning another martial art, I'd want to learn boxing, I don't know if my college has any clubs like that though.
Any of the **** that is 'taught' over youtube are things you can learn from applying common sense.

For example:

If it's not an ego-based engagement (i.e. this mofo really wants to hurt you bad), then you go for anything you can get your hands on and don't go light on using rocks and tire irons to bash his worthless head in.

If it is a fight to 'prove a point', you better have worked up your stamina by training with boxers, wrestlers, or MMA stylists to make sure you're conditioned against taking blows and feeling the rush of a fight before deciding to stick your freshman face straight into a set of brass knuckles.

~ Senzoi
 

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You really should be careful with what you think you can be prosecuted for. The guy has to make the first move, often physical for it to be considered self-defence. This doesn't mean you have to take the first punch, but don't retaliate until he becomes agressive and pushes you or so.
 

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BPH said:
Do you really think that after spending 4 years in college...between parties and hanging out at bars, that I won't come across some d!ckhead drunk off his stool that wants to fight?
Whose to say you won't be that d!ckhead drunk off his stool? :cheer:

If your drinking at college and partying, you well could find yourself in that role. And if you get in a fight as that drunk, expect it to be real real scrappy, no matter how much training you've done. Drunk = uncoordinated!
 

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Gaucho said:
Whose to say you won't be that d!ckhead drunk off his stool? :cheer:

If your drinking at college and partying, you well could find yourself in that role. And if you get in a fight as that drunk, expect it to be real real scrappy, no matter how much training you've done. Drunk = uncoordinated!
Based on track record I'm not an angry drunk. But good point.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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BPH said:
Do you really think that after spending 4 years in college...between parties and hanging out at bars, that I won't come across some d!ckhead drunk off his stool that wants to fight?

I just want to know how to end a conflict quickly. Doesn't mean I have to beat the crap out of him, I just want to know how to disable somebody. Got me thinking after somebody posted a clip from Louie on the Discussion Forum where a guy tried to pick a fight with Louie.

I just want to be ready for things like that.

And as far as learning another martial art, I'd want to learn boxing, I don't know if my college has any clubs like that though.

I did it for 4 years at college.

Boxing is definitely a good thing to train at. Will keep you super fit
 

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Street fighting is a waste of time. Waiting for someone to make the first move is asking to get injured. Not waiting invites legal problems. The law of self defence makes little sense, except maybe in Florida, and you saw how that worked out.

Natural thugs always prefer to strike first, and with the support of a group. They also like weapons, so maybe you should take a martial art which specializes in dealing with knife attacks from a group of attackers or how to deflect a broken glass thrown at your face. The world is not "Karate Kid". They don't reluctantly kick out your bad leg, they joyfully punch you from behind, when you aren't ready.
 

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ElChoclo said:
Street fighting is a waste of time. Waiting for someone to make the first move is asking to get injured. Not waiting invites legal problems.
Very well said.

Its a lose-lose situation!
 

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systema,judo,mma,boxing I live in florida got easy access to them:):cheer:
 

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dealing with douchebags on the street and mma are totally different. you can't armbar a bullet or getting jumped by a group. there's no ref. choose your battles wisely. house parties are not the octagon. beer bottles are fair game and so are bar stools. believe me i know lol

if you want to learn pressure points train jeet kune do or wing chun.

you learned kenpo. nice. so do you know a little arnis too? roll up a newspaper and hit a guy with an forward upward motion to the nose. it'll break their nose.

be aware of your surroundings and what you can use as a weapon.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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