"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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TBI and martial arts/sparring

Epicwinguy

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I sustained a traumatic brain injury in my teens. I came out pretty well, no memory loss or retardation save for trouble focusing on reading, which I am working on.

One of the things I really want to get into is MMA or boxing. Being that I currently make little money I am sort of limited to contact sparring. I was advised against this by my doctor years ago when I sustained it, or rather, against playing contact sports.

I don't really have headaches usually, but sometimes when I shake my head a little too hard or get up from a sitting position too fast my head hurts. What is the safest way to spar in my case?

Btw, I did a little sparring here and there last year and was mostly fine but that was controlled sparring. I prefer full contact sparring or something close to it.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Bible_Belt

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"Full-contact sparring" is a contradiction in terms. If we're sparring, it means you are my training partner, and one does not try to hurt one's training partner. So even though we hit each other, we're wearing 16 ounce training gloves, and we still don't hit nearly as hard as a real match. Sparring is about timing, footwork, form, and conditioning. Hitting hard is not supposed to be part of it.
 
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