Tattoos and Body Piercing

[zekko]

Carlos Xuma, in his list of alpha man traits, lists tattoos and body piercings as his first two traits. So he's basically saying an alpha man will have tattoos and body piercings. His reasoning is that they show you can handle pain and are willing to stand out in a crowd.

Now I know a lot of women like tattoos and piercings, and I suppose if done correctly they can make you look more like a tough guy. I just think that they are so common these days that I don't think they really make you stand out so much. In any case, I have no interest in getting a tattoo or a piercing because they don't appeal to me. Nothing against anyone who has them, it's just not my thing. If anything, these days I may stand out more by not having them.

I can definitely see that tattoos especially could be a kind of peacock item, or conversation piece. I don't really like tattoos on women if they are too large or there are too many of them. Anyone have any stories or opinions on tattoos or piercings as they relate to attraction?

 

[radiodude]

I believe people like to think it means something "badass" about a person, in this case a guy. However, all it really could be is eye candy for someone who likes to see them and what they 'could possibly' stand for.

Point being, when I was very AFC in my younger days I even considered one, so that doesn't say much about a guy getting a tattoo.

Piercing's are wayy to feminine in my view. Women are the only ones that look good with jewelry on them.

Alpha is a state of being and behaving. Not so much about what you stamp on yourself.

And yes, tatoo's are so common nowdays it's just trendy to have one.

Xuma's view just reinforces old cultural stereotypes from the old days when bikers and gangsters were the only one's who got tat's.

 

[HeyPachuco!]

Tattoos on the neck, chest, arms and shouldercaps - ALPHA & CONVO STARTERS

Tattoos of dragons, cartoons, stars, postergirls - NOT SO ALPHA & FALL INTO COMMON CROWD

I have s few piercings than ordinary, and abit of ink, AND yes it is a good conversation starter, and it DOES make you stand out from the rest (Sleeves and neck ink do this most I've noticed)

 

[Iceberg]

Carlos Xuma, in his list of alpha man traits, lists tattoos and body piercings as his first two traits. So he's basically saying an alpha man will have tattoos and body piercings. His reasoning is that they show you can handle pain and are willing to stand out in a crowd.

Really? Who is Carlos Xuma? He sounds like a terrible person who I'd never want to hang out with.

And don't get me wrong, I have all the respect in the world for tattoos and piercings if that's your thing. But considering that anyone with a few bucks can get a tattoo and/or piercing, it's not necessarily some Alpha Male badge of accomplishment.

Hiking, or karate, or rock climbing shows that you can handle pain....and best of all they're actual accomplishments. I'd consider you far more "Alpha" if you went out and did something, instead of buying a tattoo.

I think of myself as being the cliche "cool guy" of my group, and I don't rely on tattoos and piercings to stand out. If you're out doing stuff in the world, you're gonna carry yourself like an accomplished, confident person. An aura of confidence will make you stand out more than something you purchase.

In summary, an alpha can buy a tattoo, so can a beta, a kappa, and omega and every other damn greek letter you can think of. It's a purchase, not an accomplishment.

 

[underoath777]

Girls with half sleeve tattoos on their shoulders are sooooooo sexy.

 

[zekko]

Really? Who is Carlos Xuma? He sounds like a terrible person who I'd never want to hang out with.

Xuma is a guy who has written some seduction material. For whatever reason, when I first got into this, I ran across some of his stuff first. One of his books is "Secrets of the Alpha Man". From what I've seen, his stuff is okay, nothing groundbreaking.

Honestly when he listed tattoos and piercings as TRAITS of an alpha male I was a little surprised by it. Didn't seem to go along with the whole "do what you want and don't care what anyone thinks" routine. But he seems to be into superficial, exterior displays of masculinity - that guys tend to be into cars, motorcycles, beer, football, etc.

So in that respect I can see where he's coming from. He's saying you should have enough masculine traits so that women will see you are masculine and be attracted. I can see tattoos as a masculine thing (not so sure about piercing), but I think he makes a mistake when he says it's an ALPHA trait.