Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
It's a misconception that sunscreens are good for tanning, they aren't, they are actually the opposite of what you want=harder to tan. I have gone twice,10 minutes two days in a row w/o any lotion of some sort. Just 20 minutes in the booth and I'm already liking the new skin tone,and I'm not even burnt! I don't know if anyone cares but the booth I uses is loaded with 160 watt bulbs.~attrACTION~ said:Do you guys use any lotions like sunscreen? If so, what SPF do you recommend if I want to actually tan?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I noticed that my abs are benefiting from it the most,only 10 minutes 2 days in a row and they already look more defined! I can't wait till I'm actually brownish,only a couple more weeks away!Espi said:I live in FLA, so I can jog shirtless to get my tan, and I love to tan. It wnhances your physique...considerably.
Dude don't trip soo much off that 'tanning is dangerous' stuff you hear. 15-30 minutes in a tanning bed=one day at the beach. I personally haven't had a nice tan my whole life so doing it this summer won't kill me. Besides I'm only going for 10 minutes a day for awhile till I get a nice 'base',then backing off to twice a week at 10 minutes which isn't alot at all.danno1 said:I am trying to find a good can tan. I want to keep my skin healthy
Do you mind me asking how long you have been doing it for and letting me know if you have had any negative side effects from it?Mctwist4 said:I go every once in a while. I tan moderately easily. Naturally I am a little pasty. It took about 2 or 3 fifteen minute sessions for me to develope a good base.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
blinkwatt said:Dude don't trip soo much off that 'tanning is dangerous' stuff you hear. 15-30 minutes in a tanning bed=one day at the beach. I personally haven't had a nice tan my whole life so doing it this summer won't kill me. Besides I'm only going for 10 minutes a day for awhile till I get a nice 'base',then backing off to twice a week at 10 minutes which isn't alot at all.
Just think about it,some people spend their whole lives working outside all day,some people live their lives at the beach w/o any negative side effects. Just don't go to a tanning booth like your prepping for a bodybuilding contest everyday and you will be cool.
Good Luck!
Depends on the time of day, check a weather website to find UV index.kickureface said:i live in Los angeles and weather is sunny now. like 80-90. would playing bball outside with my shirt off be a good way to tan?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I leave the boxers on,no sperm decrease here.Mctwist4 said:If you tan naked, cover your junk with something. I've heard the radiation can **** up your sperm production.
Radiation can fvck your sperm count up, but only if it is a certain kind. Tanning beds dont give off high frequency radiation like X-rays and and radioactive radiation. It is this kind of radiation that lowers your sperm count. Since tanning beds dont give you this kind of radiation, you have nothing to worry about.Mctwist4 said:Dry skin sometimes so put on some lotion after. It helps the tan too. Watch your ass doesn't get too tan because after I went for a while the spot where my ass pushed up against the tanning bed was a little too dark. If you tan naked, cover your junk with something. I've heard the radiation can **** up your sperm production.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.