"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Tanning Beds: How much is too much?

NeedToImprove

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for those people like me whose skin is snow white, tanning beds are an alternative way to get a tan and get a boost in confidence. But some new studies say that tanning beds cause skin cancer.

i don't doubt the study but the risk of going to the beach and toast in the sun isn't it the same?

has anyone tried tanning beds? how many minutes and how many days per week/month?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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PDubb75

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Depends who you ask. Some say that every single minute in those beds increases your risk. You are basically getting a full days worth of sun in 20 minutes.

There are very few, if any studies that show they do not increase cancer risk.

With that being said, I've used them, and can agree they give a good tan and ca boost confidence.
 

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I was used to do them as well having dark hair and fair skin, which is not exactly the best mix however I find out that your skin gets naturally darker and bronzed in other ways as well:

1)reduce body fat since fat make skin which covers it paler, no wonder the average girl is paler than the average guy.

2)Eat vegetable since many of them contains vitamins and substances which improve your skin, carots for example in reasonable quantity will make your skin a lil bit more healthy in color.

3)Try to spend time outside even if its winter, your skin will still synthetize some pigment and react to the sun.

Im not attending any tanning saloon but I can tell you in few months I notice the difference, even a drop of 5% of body fat will do wonder apart all the other advantages.
 

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NeedToImprove said:
But some new studies say that tanning beds cause skin cancer.
Its not really new information that hitting your skin with UV light is bad for you. UV light is a known mutagen that has been extensively linked to the development of skin cancer. The amount is highly variable between people, but if you keep hitting your skin with UV light, your chances of getting skin cancer get a lot higher.

I used to work in a melanoma lab, and you seriously don't want to mess around with increasing your chances for skin cancer. A melanoma smaller than a pencil eraser is easily able to kill you if it metastasizes.
 

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There's a lot of misunderstanding around tanning beds. Yes they hit you with UV and yes they increase cancer risk.

However, so does going out in the sun and exposing your body to 'natural' UV. At least with a tanning bed you get a measured dose and 8 minutes in a bed is equivalent to about an hour in the sun, not all day.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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How about you get your confidence from success and accomplishment and mastery rather than the color of your complexion?

Tanning beds, just like tanning from the sun, can cause cancer. Especially if you are pale skinned. Wear hats, sunglasses, and sunscreen. Don't be a girl and fvck yourself up to live up to some other person's standard of beauty.
 
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