"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Drones200

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Ok im asking for links or advice in conversations with girls.

I can talk on and on with my girl-friends but when is someone i want to hook up with i totally go blank sometimes. Sometimes. Its happening again im talking to these girl in the phone i know pretty much everything about her and she knows things about me, i call her today and ask her if she wants to go to the mall or something later and she says maybe later if shes not busy because shes painting the house. So i tell her if she needs some help and shes like nah but she will ask her dad if someone else can come help*me*. So w.e after that i had nothing to say i whent blank we had an akward pause * i hate those* and i whent to say these story about me and some ice incident she laughed a bit but contributed nothing, ended up saying she had to go and maybe will call me later to see about that being busy or not.

Wasnt that bad but i need to do better and i dont know how. When we are in person i dont know what to bring up in conversations and she stays quiet, any help?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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musclyjerk

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Conversation isn't difficult when you're dealing with a chick who'se interested in you.

Maybe later if she's not busy because she's painting the house
Dis-interest.

She didn't want you to go and help her
Dis-interest. (you shouldn't of actually offered your help after she declined your offer to go the mall or 'something' later)

Things to note:

She ended the call, not you.
You are waiting on her for your plans tonight.

I'd assume she isn't interested and move on . . . withdraw interest, don't contact her . . . she may get in touch with you and be more keen if she really is interested but I wouldn't hold my breath.

One big problem I note is that you're being too nice, thinking you must actually have a conversation on the phone (really, you don't.. use it for arranging things and that's it. If she shows any lack of interest just say you have to go, and if she says she might call you later tell her nah don't 'cos you're making other plans) and you're way too easy and available.

The Muscly Jerk
 

Drones200

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Actually she called me to go help her after that i just camed back from her house and i did some kimo in our conversations she only told me to stop once but in the cutest way . Im still not sure though, im getting mixed bives but these is the 2nd time i being to her house.
 

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Whatever, whether she's interested you or not shouldn't really bother you. The more important thing here is working on your interaction with women, or people in general.

It will take you half of your life to learn how to interact with women based on reading text. You need to watch successful people to be a successful person. Whether it be a movie, a successful man at a club, or a friend.

A picture is worth a thousand words. Body language, conversation, and timing are a few qualities that good conversationalists have. Imitate successful people, learn from them, and then make it your own based on your interests and personality.
 

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musclyjerk said:
One big problem I note is that you're being too nice, thinking you must actually have a conversation on the phone (really, you don't.. use it for arranging things and that's it.

Actually, some of my best successes have come from having conversations on the phone before asking them out.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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