Talking to passersby

[Magnatolia]

Hi,

I find it hard to start a conversation with someone on the street/in a public place such as public transport. However I've noticed a couple of times I have what seem to be really good convo's when the woman starts the conversation. Like today when I got my hair cut, I had a really good conversation with the hairdresser, unfortunately during the conversation she mentioned her partner, but I made good conversation. It wasn't just polite chitchat either - she was telling me what sort of drinks she usually has, that sort of thing and how she wants a tatoo. She mentioned that the other hairdresser had a tat and asked if I wanted to see it. I was like, sure. So the other girl lifted her shirt, lower back, nowhere private.

Has anyone been in this situation, where they seem to have good conversations when the other person starts them, but can't start their own?

I would really like some feedback on this.

 

[El MonoLoco]

I bet you found it much easier having a woman start the convo first huh?????

I always found that hair dressers are an easy way to build your convo skills......

They pretty much have to talk to you while your under their sissors.
Most of them are faily attractive females.
You can ask them just about everything.

Oh I got a hair dresser story too, boy was I fool back in High School.....but that's another time.

But basically you had a good convo because you weren't putting any pressure on yourself.....Think about that and try to apply it to picking up women.

 

[Life-Trainee]

Man, i'm plagued by the same problem. I can join in just about any interesting conversation with anyone and have fun. I can play off of vibe of others pretty well. Yet I can't start any fun conversations by myself.

This hurts me a lot in social situations. In a group I can appear to be fun and outgoing and have girls interested in me. But then I chill outside the group with those girls and they see the real boring me....

 

[Magnatolia]

@ El MonoLoco - I completely agree. It comes with the job. But is it normal for them to ask if you want to see another hairdressers tat?

@ Life-Trainee- well done. You're further ahead than me. I still have big problems in groups, unless I am well acquainted with the members of the group.