Talking to her first.

[Bloodsport]

Being suave

I ran into a girl I knew back in high school. We both noticed each other, so I figured I had to say an obligatory "hi" and leave it at that. The next thing I knew, she was flirting with me, and I was able to talk to her without a problem, despite the fact that she's easily a 9.

Yet if you were to point out a random girl for me to approach, and when I did, she made no attempt at a conversation, I would fold like the Dolphins in December.

I know that a lot of the time, the girl isn't talking because she doesn't like your looks and wants you to leave. It's easy to detect this: She stares at the ground, looks at her watch, refuses any eye contact.

There are other times, though, when the girl doesn't look like she wants you to leave, but isn't giving you an easy passage either.

Guys say, in this case you should "ask open-ended questions that require more than a yes or no answer." We all know girls find a way to turn it into a one word answer.

So what real opinions are there?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

"Yet if you were to point out a random girl for me to approach, and when I did, she made no attempt at a conversation, I would fold like the Dolphins in December."

Have conversations that you are well verse at or share a common interest - for example you can go to a sports bar and have no problem chatting because you have the same common interest at the time (packers fotball) that you share with her - and you are chetting with her with no expected outcome - so there is no prresure on both of you to force something out of nothing.


When you do a cold approach you should expect this silence from her as a possible outcome - I fear you are over-weclcomeing your stay.

Keep it short and sweet - if no then - say 'have a pleasant day' - go to "effort's thread -- that is currently posted (i yhink it has to fo with his field feport) - I gave him a knockout cold aproach that you may find helpful - check it out. Plus do a search on cold approaches.

Also try do a natural approach that fits the situation - look at your surroundings and talk about that commonality you are both sharing at the moment -- shopping - park - after school activity - buying groceries - exercising etc - you should be able to at least talk a few minutes.

Ask open-ended questions instead of no/yes answers or one word answers.

You should have at least 3 or 4 questions or topics already piicked out before you approach


Overall, don't panic and keep cool - if no feedback, then move on.


There, I did a post without mentioning the word wh@re. DOH!!!!!! I just mentioned it.

 

[Bloodsport]

Sometimes a girl doesn't realize she's being hit on because she thinks that she's in a place or situation where she's free from guys.

To the girl, life should be convenient, and flirting should be at her own discretion.

For instance, a girl danced with a guy at a club and told her friends how "hot" he was. The same guy, instead of meeting her at a club, walked up to her at a store when she was shopping. Chances are he wouldn't get the same response. The guy hasn't changed, but the location has, and it seems location is everything for girls. It makes it real difficult.

The problem is, you're not always going to see a girl you want to talk to at a sports bar or a place where there's a common link. You're going to see a girl at a store, or a girl walking by you. And to me, you shouldn't have to ignore her just because it interrupts her trivial plans.

 

[Bloodsport]

Bump.

 

[uniassign]

From what I can gather, you are doing street approaches during the day, correct?

If that’s the case, you have to expect her not to talk to you for a good three to four minutes. Let’s look at a typical approach from a hot girl’s perspective:

She is going about her daily activities. If she is particularly hot, she has already been approached by 10 LAMOs asking her the time, where XXX is and just general comments about her beauty. When you approach, before you even utter ONE SIGNLE WORD, you have already been categorised as the NEXT GUY that is going to hit on her.

Thus, in order not to be classed as the NEXT LAMO, you must differentiate yourself. Now there are suggestions that you use something situational to open her. That’s all well and good, but realise that you have to do MUCH more.

Instead of proceed to ask her questions, you should tell stories. Remember, you are the prize, not her. Why do you care about her day? Why do you care about what she is up to? Tell stories like if she does not listen, it is her loss because your stories are funny and interesting, and will definitely brighten up her day. Also when you tell interesting stories, you get out of the NEXT LAMO category.

You should also proceed to bust on her, for her mannerisms or whatever. Only ask questions when she has asked you a few questions.

Don’t forget, she was in her own little world before you approached. Rejecting LAMOs is part of her auto-response system, so when you hit her with stories, she is going to be frozen – like she would not know how to respond. It will take her a while before she will truly open up. During the first couple of minutes she will be using her logical brain to figure out why you are talking to her, and what you want from this interaction and judging you at the same time. But when you hit her with funny stories and busting on her, soon her emotional side will take over and she will no longer care about why you are talking to her and what you want.

So your homework is to come up with interesting and funny stories so that you have things to say to a woman before asking her questions.

 

[Bloodsport]

Let's face it, it doesn't boil down to what you have to say, it boils down to your looks. Whenever I succeed, the girl compliments me on my appearance or looks like she wants to f*ck me. Whenever I fail, it's obvious that she doesn't like what she sees.