"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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talking to her about jealousy. good idea or no?

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i get jealous sometimes, like everyone else on the face of the earth. i'm just wondering, is it shooting yourself in the foot to confront a girl about things that bother you and make you feel jealous? does it come across as insecure or does it help? i'm in a relationship of 6 months. semi serious. (by that i mean she said she wants to go to college together and blah blah blah) just wondering. if you need more info, ask. im not trying to be ignorant here, but i know i'm inexperienced and some of yall can probably help :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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(JJ) said:
i get jealous sometimes, like everyone else on the face of the earth. i'm just wondering, is it shooting yourself in the foot to confront a girl about things that bother you and make you feel jealous? does it come across as insecure or does it help? i'm in a relationship of 6 months. semi serious. (by that i mean she said she wants to go to college together and blah blah blah) just wondering. if you need more info, ask. im not trying to be ignorant here, but i know i'm inexperienced and some of yall can probably help :)
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You need to not care. A relationship can end at anytime regardless of what other guy is around. The sooner you get it into your head that love and relationships are a total crap shoot in terms of how long they last, the better off you will be. Anytime she is talking to another guy, have a smile on your face. Now, if this guy is putting the moves on her or if she going out alone with this guy on some type of date, then step in and make your feelings known because that is a sign of disrespect. If you feel like she may have a small attraction to him, I wouldn't say anything.

Not to be arrogant, but I pick up attraction from attached girls all the time for some reason, some with boyfriends, some engaged, even some who are married! But at the end of the day, it doesn't matter because they have chosen who they want to be with. You shouldn't let it concern you.
 
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(JJ) said:
i get jealous sometimes, like everyone else on the face of the earth. i'm just wondering, is it shooting yourself in the foot to confront a girl about things that bother you and make you feel jealous? does it come across as insecure or does it help? i'm in a relationship of 6 months. semi serious. (by that i mean she said she wants to go to college together and blah blah blah) just wondering. if you need more info, ask. im not trying to be ignorant here, but i know i'm inexperienced and some of yall can probably help :)
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Unless she is egregiously flirting with other dudes to the point of it being teetering on the edge of cheating, keep your mouth shut or look like a big p----. If you are the main factor in her college choice, one of the biggest decisions of a person's life, obviously her interest level couldn't be much higher. Chill out on the jealousy.
 
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to be quite honest i'm jealous of you guys right now. im impressed that you just let it roll off your back so easy. how do you get that type mentality of just knowing that jealousy is pointless? i've always had this problem and logically, i know, it's a moronic thing for me to be upset about. but emotionally, i can't shake it sometimes.
 
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I might be a little cynical but I think that I've had enough experiences with hurt to know that anything you had with a girl can end at any time. Another guy doesn't even have to be in the picture. You're only 17. When you get older, you will learn how to deal with these emotions better and learning comes with experience. For now though, you should enjoy the ride.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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It could go both ways. You can just ignore and just realize girls are that way. UNLESS she is going over board, then pull her aside and say something. What exactly is she doing to make you jealous?

But, communication in a relationship is good too. If you sit down and talk to her and say. You know when you do this or that it kind of bugs me because... If she respects and understands you. She will say something along the lines of; "sorry I didnt know I was doing that. Or thats just the way I am." Then, you work it and and have an understanding between each other.
 
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