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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

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Hey.
I've been in a relationship for a little over three months now, one thing I always wonder about is; is it alright for guys to tell their girlfriends to have a good weekend / day / good luck etc etc, all that kind of stuff? I'm thinking it could be perceived as clingy and be a turn-off. Maybe if it happens intermittently, it could have a beneficial effect? Just want to know what you guys think about it.

One more thing, sometimes when she texts, she says 'i miss you' or 'miss you heaps,' you get the gist of it. From what I've read, I know that there should rarely be a time where you say it back. Can you suggest what to say in this situation?

Thanks in advance :)
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

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in my opinion saying good weekend / day / good luck etc to anybody is just being polite, its not seducing or anything :p
 
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mattock8 said:
Hey.
I've been in a relationship for a little over three months now, one thing I always wonder about is; is it alright for guys to tell their girlfriends to have a good weekend / day / good luck etc etc, all that kind of stuff? I'm thinking it could be perceived as clingy and be a turn-off. Maybe if it happens intermittently, it could have a beneficial effect? Just want to know what you guys think about it.

One more thing, sometimes when she texts, she says 'i miss you' or 'miss you heaps,' you get the gist of it. From what I've read, I know that there should rarely be a time where you say it back. Can you suggest what to say in this situation?

Thanks in advance :)
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well yeah it's the thought that counts. i don't see anything wrong with it, if you feel like you want her to have a good weekend/day/goodluck and all that, just say it and she'll probably say "thanks, you too" but yeah, it's nothing that will significantly change the way she perceives you. as for the "miss you" one. i always say "i wouldn't blame you" or "i know ;)" i usually get a laugh and the occasional "jerk" but that doesn't change that she still misses me :cool:
 
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ye and if you dont want her to be sad you can just be a little original and like AAAAAAH I MISS YOUUUUUUUU COME BAAACK!!!!! use your imagination!
 
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theirs nothin wrong with saying i miss you to your gf...

i said to mine sometimes. and she said it back and it was a bonding moment fa sho.
 

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theirs nothin wrong with saying i miss you to your gf...

i said to mine sometimes. and she said it back and it was a bonding moment fa sho.
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Sometimes you should say it, other times you should just act like a jerk by saying "I know" or something like that.
 
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Ah okay, I see now. Fair enough
While we're on this, would it be okay to say it first?
 
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of course but dont say it too often, so she doesnt get used to it. like not more than once a week. and tell her how much you miss her, you have to be romantic!
 
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just dont be needy about it...

if you truly havent seen her in a while. then tell her...

but if it hasnt been that long then whatever...

if you are occupying your self with other activites then you wont even be thinking about how much you miss her till she calls you...

so just keep it real
 
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