Talking on the phone

[becker]

I know you all think that it's not good to talk on the phone with a girl for too long, but for some reason, I tend to think that there are exceptions to this rule.

My ex-GF and I used to talk on the phone for hours before we were even together, and we had a good time rambling about random stuff. We ended up together, so I'm thinking it can't be totally a bad thing to talk on the phone for a long time so long as you keep it light.

I talked with this girl on the phone the other day for at least half an hour, and she seems to enjoy it. I can't see how it can be a bad thing to do this when the chemistry is good.

This has to be a case-by-case thing, and this might be a case where the rules are meant to be broken when necessary.

 

[Kodiac]

True, but i just see it better to leave all the talking for the date.
Phone just seems like a waist of time, your never going to kiss / fuk close over the phone.

Some girls can just talk their butts off, i was on the phone with 2 hours with this one chick before, acting all AFC and i slipped into the friend zone.

Now I just keep it short - 5 minutes - and use the phone just to make dates or for a brief conversation. The rest is for the date.

Keep's up the mystery and shows you are a busy man.
But yes, depends on the situation and whether is is necessary etc..

 

[becker]

I think one of the situations where staying on the phone will not hurt you is if it's the girl keeping you on the phone rather than you keeping the girl on the phone.

If a girl is trying to keep you on the phone, but you are trying to get off, it doesn't come off too well, since it seems like you don't want to talk to her.

 

[Ar7]

I never really gave it much thought, I am not a fone person and don't really enjoy talking on the fone. It just seems so booring and dull, no visuals, no physical, just yap yap yap.

I rather leave the talking when I actually meet the gal. At least then I can use the talking to lead me to something else more productive, like kissing or ****ing

 

[becker]

I agree completely that in-person conversation is much better than talking on the phone, but my point in this post was that sometimes you just have to talk on the phone if she wants to talk to you and there are things to say.

If there's a choice though, of course in person in much more effective.

 

[iqqi]

This has to be a case-by-case thing, and this might be a case where the rules are meant to be broken when necessary.

there are no rules, dammit. everything is case by case.

 

[DIESEL]

Originally posted by iqqi
there are no rules, dammit. everything is case by case.

"Rules" such as these have their purpose. It's good for the newbies to keep in mind, lest they degenerate into pathetic saps on the phone.

However, once you get some experience under your belt, then yes, you are absolutely right. Play it by ear (or by girl, actually)

 

[becker]

Nice, I'm glad to hear that some people agree with me.

Iqqi, I don't normally follow any rules, I just used the label for convenience. If you read most of my posts, they involve subjects that tend to go against some DJ tactics. I'm the last one to follow the rules, whether there are any or not.