Talking louder or stopping to continue?

[Philippe Schlichting]

When you are saying something to a girl and she is interrupting you, is it better to talk louder over her or to stop immediately to continue your sentence.

So for instance as a starting point:

You: "So when I was in Swed..."
She: "Hey I totally remember when my boyfriend..."

Do you continue with "..en I was visiting a friend of mine who owns a huge..." using a louder voice while she is talking or do you wait for her to finish her unrelated uninteresting talk to say "..en I was visiting a friend of mine who owns a huge..." in a normal voice.

 

[TheJazz]

Wait for her to finish saying whatever it is she wanted to say, and leave. Go live your life. This woman is uninterested. Spending anymore time/attention on her would be pointless. Come on, Don Juan! Life awaits!

 

[Philippe Schlichting]

This woman is uninterested. Spending anymore time/attention on her would be pointless.

How do you come to this conclusion?

 

[floydb25]

I'm just wondering why you are doing so bad. Do you START a conversation like this? Are you awkward and annoying? No social skills? Extremely ugly? Trying too hard? Do you make friends easily? Fun to be around? Have interesting things to say? Do people enjoy being around and talking to you?

Something's gotta give...

 

[Philippe Schlichting]

"I'm just wondering why you are doing so bad." Me too.

Do you START a conversation like this? No. It comes up within the conversation.

Are you awkward and annoying? How would you determine that about yourself?

No social skills? I do have social skills.

Extremely ugly? No, good looking. Maybe not the best clothes but I've seen uglier people have more success in worse clothes.

Trying too hard? Elaborate.

Have interesting things to say? Yes.

Do people enjoy being around and talking to you? Not women obviously.

 

[TheJazz]

How do you come to this conclusion?

If she was genuinely interested in you, she'd pay attention to you and be attentive to whatever you were saying. She isn't interested. Move on.

 

[Philippe Schlichting]

If she was genuinely interested in you, she'd pay attention to you and be attentive to whatever you were saying. She isn't interested. Move on.

The question is why she is not interested.

 

[Purefilth]

The question is why she is not interested.

Girls on redtube videos talk over me too.

But I don't ever walk away.




Maybe all girls just have no respect for trolls

 

[Philippe Schlichting]

Girls on redtube videos talk over me too.

But I don't ever walk away.




Maybe all girls just have no respect for trolls

Cool story bro.

 

[DonDiscovery]

i would say that a lot of the other responses on this are bullsh1t...this kind of thing does not happen very often in conversations, and when it does it is generally nothing to do with 'oh if she respected you she wouldn't be talking over you'

come on guys that is over-thinking things...these occurences are generally just an accident...

Whichever option you choose Philippe, it does not matter that much; just dont over-think things

However, if she keeps doing it repeatedly, just walk away; this girl has no social skills and is not worth your time.

 

[Philippe Schlichting]

i would say that a lot of the other responses on this are bullsh1t...this kind of thing does not happen very often in conversations, and when it does it is generally nothing to do with 'oh if she respected you she wouldn't be talking over you'

They are referring to the other threads I made.

Whichever option you choose Philippe, it does not matter that much; just dont over-think things

Problem is, I keep on getting a non-sexual vibe. Declaring everything as unimportant is not the way to go. But if you noticed I don't believe in the Next-mentality.

 

[DonDiscovery]

I think that having a complete 'next mentality' is used by some guys as an excuse for their lack of pick up success;

on the other hand, women who mess you around definitely should be 'nexted'

nexting all women does not work; nexting no women does not work either

 

[Atom Smasher]

Interrupting annoys me to no end.

Did you ever see a bunch of hens talking in a group. They routinely interrupt each other and no one gets mad. This is the way women communicate.

When a woman talks to me she learns that I am NOT to be interrupted. I used to just back off and let them interrupt me. Now I simply keep on talking. It's amazing how they will keep on talking... it can become a battle of wills, but this is one battle I don't lose.

I think it could also be a subconscious test. They want to see if a man is man enough to demand not being interrupted. If it gets really bad I will instruct her about the differences between the way men and women communicate and that I despise being interrupted, and when I am interrupted I consider it a blatant show of disrespect. If she continues she's history.

Watch two or more girls talking with each other and you'll see what I mean. Women talk over each other, and men take polite, respectful turns.

 

[Philippe Schlichting]

Atom Smasher, did you even try the other option? Question is, which one is better.

 

[Chamber36]

I agree with Atom Smasher.

I have been in the same situation in a club once, where a chick tried to interrupt me, and we had a little battle of wills. She accused me that I didn't stop, and her friend told her that she was doing the same, so it was pretty funny.

Anyway, I really don't like disrespect from women. If they interrupt me, or tell me to do something, or give me stupid sarcasm, or ask me to do a favor they wouldn't do, I mostly prefer to just ignore them and invest as little time as possible into those people.

I just talk to girls that are nice and respectful and girly, and won't interrupt me. If I keep talkin to them, other girls will see how they act, and they will follow suit.

You can keep on talking through their interruption or you can wait for them to finish their sentence and then continue your sentence - either way you disregard whatever she said. Both are fine responses, as long as you don't let a chick lead the conversation away from an important point. If a chick won't show any interest in what you have to say, ignore them. Sometimes I even ignore women that SHOW me interest. I'm not a super duper Don Juan, I just don't like disrespect, so I try to get women to invest as much as they can before I invest.

 

[TheJazz]

Interrupting annoys me to no end.

Did you ever see a bunch of hens talking in a group. They routinely interrupt each other and no one gets mad. This is the way women communicate.

When a woman talks to me she learns that I am NOT to be interrupted. I used to just back off and let them interrupt me. Now I simply keep on talking. It's amazing how they will keep on talking... it can become a battle of wills, but this is one battle I don't lose.

I think it could also be a subconscious test. They want to see if a man is man enough to demand not being interrupted. If it gets really bad I will instruct her about the differences between the way men and women communicate and that I despise being interrupted, and when I am interrupted I consider it a blatant show of disrespect. If she continues she's history.

Watch two or more girls talking with each other and you'll see what I mean. Women talk over each other, and men take polite, respectful turns.

This may work, but it seems pretty stuck up to me. The way I see it, as a man, there are certain things worth fighting over, and there are certain things you don't really care much about. Women are talkers, men are doers. Everyone knows that. If she wants to talk, I say let her flap her gums! Less work for me! It's certainly not something to throw a fit about. On the other side of the coin, if you're talking about a matter of first importance and she's being blatantly disrespectful/not paying attention, then Atom Smasher is completely spot on. Discretion is key here.

The question is why she is not interested.

She's not interested because you're not interesting. Go out, improve yourself, work out, live life, win the world. The women will follow.

 

[Philippe Schlichting]

She's not interested because you're not interesting. Go out, improve yourself, work out, live life, win the world. The women will follow.

You don't know anything about me is all that this proves.

 

[Sneevox]

The reason she does this has nothing to do with her interest level.

She does it because she is a woman.

Ever watch girls have a conversation?

Girl A: There was like this one time were like I had all of these-
Girl B: Oh my god it's so cooolldd in here!
Girl A: Yeah, I know! I wish I brought a jacket. So like I had all of these guys chasing me around blah blah blah woman talk blah


You get the drift?
Do that and women will naturally respect you more. They speak from their intuition, not through step by step logic. This means that they say whatever they are feeling at the moment. When a girl interrupts you, listen, comment on what she said, and then continue the conversation.

Unless, of course, you don't like being interrupted. Then I'd say you're expecting too much male behavior from a woman.

 

[Philippe Schlichting]

They speak from their intuition, not through step by step logic. Do that and women will naturally respect you more.

No s.h.i.t. sherlock. Go become her girlfriend by being as woman-like as possible I prefer being seen as dating material.

 

[Sneevox]

No s.h.i.t. sherlock. Go become her girlfriend by being as woman-like as possible I prefer being seen as dating material.

Yeah... okay. You go ahead and keep thinking like that. See where your interest level goes.

You're welcome for the advice.