Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Talking dirty?

DJCorleone

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Hey guys, love the forum, but have a question. I read somewhere in the dj bible that mentioned talking about sex is the best way to turn on a woman, but can anyone give me any pointers on what to say, how to say it etc? For example, what you whisper in your girls ear?

Thanks.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Its not 'talking dirty' thats being referred to here. If you're talking to a girl,. and it turns to sex, its natural that you both will imagine doing that with each other. Its great when you are both talking about what you like, and have done, and it turns out to be the same. This is TOTALLY different than talking dirty.
 

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When people talk about a subject they are naturally thinking about it. When people think about something that something will be more likely to happen then if they were not thinking of it. So get them thinking about it.


The more detail you go into the more information they're thinking about. ;) Its like when some guys see porn.
 

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The idea in what you read is to get her to think about sex and hopefully with you in it.

You could ask a girl what her favorite position is. You could tell a story about some crazy sex story. Bring up a interesting sex fact. If a girl is bi-sexual ask her questions about it (does she like d1ck or pvssy better and why).
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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wow... didn't realize id see some basic nlp being talked about here (dont know if people even realize this is a nlp fundemental teaching or not)...

but yeah, basically whats already been said is true...
in order for someones mind to comprehend a sentence like "i was pressing the girl up against the wall... and our breathing was getting heavier... and our kisses were full of such passion and our whole bodies were tingling all over..." etc... they'd have to visualize it in their head... they'd most likely see you doing it with them...

look at: "i used to have an ex who very much looked like you... she was cool because we were both into wild sex" -
"looked like you" forces her mind to automatically see herself with me.
"wild sex" - brings into her head whatever her idea of wild sex is.
for us guys reading this - you most likely envision your most recent ex or the one you had the strongest feelings for when you just read the word "ex" in that sentence....

people who reminisce about happy times in their past often become happy in the process (even at a funeral)...

so when applied to a female you like - you can make her become aroused by getting her to see herself in any sexual story or suggestion you speak. getting her to open up sexually as well.
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Women are very emotional so, memories can bring back feelings and emotions. You get them thinking about those while talking to you.
 

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"i used to have an ex who very much looked like you... she was cool because we were both into wild sex" -

If you said this to me, it would kill the moment there and then. I would think he is just after a clone of his ex, not a wise move.

I like being talked to dirty. You can actually get a woman wet by talking to her. "I would love to stroke your silky smooth stocking, until i reach your silky smooth skin, while gently kissing your neck caressing it with the warmth of my breath" is a good opener, and if she responds, well become braver. The dirty talk has to be all ablout giving her pleasure, and she reciprocates.
 

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bukowski_merit said:
look at: "i used to have an ex who very much looked like you... she was cool because we were both into wild sex" -
"looked like you" forces her mind to automatically see herself with me.
"wild sex" - brings into her head whatever her idea of wild sex is.
for us guys reading this - you most likely envision your most recent ex or the one you had the strongest feelings for when you just read the word "ex" in that sentence....
Lmao your turning seduction into a fvcking science.

It depends on the girl, there's some girls I'd directly tell to suck my **** and there's other I wouldn't do it.
 

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I usually find it's better to introduce sex into a conversation covertly -- making sexual jokes, or sexual observations.

E.g. at a club, pointing out two people dancing badly and saying something like "Those two look like they'd be awesome at having terrible sex."

The key is usually to get her thinking about sex without it looking like that's your main intention. I say usually, though, because sometimes, when it's patently obvious a girl is into everything about you, the best bet is something dirty with a smile or something *really* dirty whispered in her ear.

Take what I say with a grain of salt, though, because I ƒuck this kinda stuff up at least 50% of the time when I try.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Cinamon said:
"i used to have an ex who very much looked like you... she was cool because we were both into wild sex" -

If you said this to me, it would kill the moment there and then. I would think he is just after a clone of his ex, not a wise move.
It was merely an example to better show the subject at hand.... not a "say this to women" thing....

Cinamon said:
I like being talked to dirty. You can actually get a woman wet by talking to her. "I would love to stroke your silky smooth stocking, until i reach your silky smooth skin, while gently kissing your neck caressing it with the warmth of my breath" is a good opener, and if she responds, well become braver. The dirty talk has to be all ablout giving her pleasure, and she reciprocates.
yes you definitely can get a woman very wet with just words. especially once we've had sex. i love taking women back to a sexual moment we had while out having drinks... always gets them ready to go have a new sexual moment - right away.

what you wrote sounds like some "mode one" stuff. more like cheap cyber sex talk, which requires amazing delivery and sexual confidence to pull off in person as an opener. it also has a high fail rate, because you're not establishing rapport...

sexual talk should initially be done covertly...through story telling and basic conversation banter.

Lmao your turning seduction into a fvcking science.

It depends on the girl, there's some girls I'd directly tell to suck my **** and there's other I wouldn't do it.
everything is a science...

telling a woman to directly suck your **** is fine. and i do that too when the time calls for it. but not so much can you say it as an opener... unless theres a financial transaction going down with that... that or - youre a pimp.... a real one.... =)
 
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