"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Talking about ex's

OC Speedball

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I was hanging out with this one girl. She never talks about personal stuff with me, and I seriously doubt I'm in the friend zone. Until yesterday.

She started talking about her ex's, and how hot certain guys were. But I also talk to a lot of girls (because I'm working on my DJ skills :) ), so she might be trying to make me jealous.

What do you guys think? Is talking about ex's a bad sign? I've heard it can happen on first dates, but I've never had it happen to me.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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bigneil

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On the first couple of dates you are being compared to the ex. That's only natural. If he was really hot and she is still interested in you, take it as a compliment.

Also, it's good in a way for her to talk about her ex's good points with you because she will associate you with things she likes.

However, if it becomes a pattern, it generally means they like still the ex more (or are still seeing him on the side). That happened to me and the relationship was awful.

At some point you have to tell them not to talk about him anymore. This can work for or against you depending on her interest level in you.
 
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