War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
This advice has probably been given out a lot, but I think it works the best in high school which is why I'm posting it here instead of the tips forums. A lot of people do this wrong and are seen as annoying or nosy. One of my friends is this type of person. He was a friendly guy make no mistake, but he annoyed the hell out of people. There was this other friend I had that was a senior in high school when I was a freshmen. He talked to everyone and he didn't annoy anyone about it. He was high status and had great social skills. He was the second most popular guy in our school and I always wondered to myself why this guy doesn't mind talking to me. Social skills isn't about knowing exactly what to say or having the amount of things to say in your bag, but knowing when to say things. This is what my first friend lacked and this is what the latter person had.
My first friend would walk around and say whats up to everyone like he knew them for a long time. There is nothing wrong with this, however, where he would go wrong is that he would overwelcome his stay, telling dumb stories to keep the conversation going on and would make the group feel uncomfortable. I could see this too; in a body language perspective, my friend would enter the group and try to squeeze his way into the circle. The group would then ignore him and close off their body language in hopes he would go away. One time this girl actually put him on blast and told him "You're so fvcking annoying I swear to God no one likes you!" Even I told him off one time because I was pretty pissed that day.
Now my second friend would say hi to everyone even if he knew them remotely. Instead of just saying hi, he would engage into a brief conversation with them. Now, what he does differently from my first friend is that this session usually only lasts like 10 to 30 seconds, maybe even longer depending on how the OTHER person wanted to stay engaged in the conversation. I've noticed that his body language appears as if he's about to leave (if anyone follows the Venusian Arts by Mystery this actually is a tactic when seducing women). Like in Mystery's methods, when you portray this type of body language, it makes them feel comfortable and depending on how well they like you, they'll actually WANT you to stay. When you try to look too comfortable outside of the comfort zone with the other person, the other person is going to find it uncomfortable. This is what my first friend did and what my second friend didn't do it; he knew the boundaries, and that's why people loved him.
Admittingly I used to be like the first person after I was given the advice to say hi to everyone. After improving myself, I applied these rules that my second friend has unconsciously been doing this entire time and saw myself transform myself to an often annoying guy to a chill guy. It all really is about comfort and if you don't step over the boundaries of these comfort zones then you are going to be widely liked. I don't think the advice of "saying hi to everyone" has been elaborated on upon enough, but I guaranteed you're going to make a lot of connections with these rules.
My first friend would walk around and say whats up to everyone like he knew them for a long time. There is nothing wrong with this, however, where he would go wrong is that he would overwelcome his stay, telling dumb stories to keep the conversation going on and would make the group feel uncomfortable. I could see this too; in a body language perspective, my friend would enter the group and try to squeeze his way into the circle. The group would then ignore him and close off their body language in hopes he would go away. One time this girl actually put him on blast and told him "You're so fvcking annoying I swear to God no one likes you!" Even I told him off one time because I was pretty pissed that day.
Now my second friend would say hi to everyone even if he knew them remotely. Instead of just saying hi, he would engage into a brief conversation with them. Now, what he does differently from my first friend is that this session usually only lasts like 10 to 30 seconds, maybe even longer depending on how the OTHER person wanted to stay engaged in the conversation. I've noticed that his body language appears as if he's about to leave (if anyone follows the Venusian Arts by Mystery this actually is a tactic when seducing women). Like in Mystery's methods, when you portray this type of body language, it makes them feel comfortable and depending on how well they like you, they'll actually WANT you to stay. When you try to look too comfortable outside of the comfort zone with the other person, the other person is going to find it uncomfortable. This is what my first friend did and what my second friend didn't do it; he knew the boundaries, and that's why people loved him.
Admittingly I used to be like the first person after I was given the advice to say hi to everyone. After improving myself, I applied these rules that my second friend has unconsciously been doing this entire time and saw myself transform myself to an often annoying guy to a chill guy. It all really is about comfort and if you don't step over the boundaries of these comfort zones then you are going to be widely liked. I don't think the advice of "saying hi to everyone" has been elaborated on upon enough, but I guaranteed you're going to make a lot of connections with these rules.