soulforge
Master Don Juan
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i broke up with this chick after 4 months of dating.. not a very long relationship, but it was pretty intense..
i was single for nearly 2 years before her & banged a lot of girls in that time..
this is the first girl i felt different with.. yes definitely got the oneitis for her.. she had lots of good qualities, but over the months some negatives started to surface..
I broke up with her about a month ago, but she is still in my mind constantly.. had some dates, banged a few girls, but nothing has helped!
since the break up, she has been back on POF so she could have banged another guy or two, or she could be dating someone.. or she may still be single!
the break up was kind of mutual.. she flaked on a date with me & i got a little annoyed with her.. she went into victim mode & dropped communication with me.. i felt like she was checking out of the relationship or she was being stubborn & expecting me to chase her
after one week of no contact from her side & two attempts by me to speak to her.. i finally decided to end it & walk away
i did try twice to talk to her before i officially ended it.. but she still seemed stubborn and angry about things
now upon reflection i can see, how i could have handled some things differently & made some mistakes & i can see where she handled things badly with me too
we both had terrible communication between us.. that was the main issue!
i,m at a stage now, where i am willing to risk reaching out to her.. i will more than likely get knocked back.. in that case i will just have to take it as a man and walk away if she does reject me
but.. something in my gut tells me, that it will not work out in the long run! i am currently romanticizing the relationship.. the reality of it could get a whole lot worse if i got back with her
if i was to reach out to her.. how much longer should i leave it for?
what are the risks of trying to get back with a girl that you once dumped? i mean the balance of power would completely shift to her right?
i have made a little positives & negatives list about her.. and its not looking good lol
POSITIVES:
amazing sex..
very affectionate..
down to earth
non drinker (does not do bars or clubs)
we have similar sense of humor
does not dress slutty
NEGATIVES:
can be rude & ****y towards me sometimes
not willing to make any effort to make up after a petty argument
goes into victim mode very easily
seems to be ready to walk away from the relationship quite easily
has LOTS of male friends, mentions other guys a lot & claims to know some drug dealers
shady with her phone.. never goes on whatsapp to check her messages around me (even with 15 unread messages there)
met her on POF
my brain & logic tells me, its a bad idea to get back with her.. but a little part of me thinks maybe we could work it out
i was single for nearly 2 years before her & banged a lot of girls in that time..
this is the first girl i felt different with.. yes definitely got the oneitis for her.. she had lots of good qualities, but over the months some negatives started to surface..
I broke up with her about a month ago, but she is still in my mind constantly.. had some dates, banged a few girls, but nothing has helped!
since the break up, she has been back on POF so she could have banged another guy or two, or she could be dating someone.. or she may still be single!
the break up was kind of mutual.. she flaked on a date with me & i got a little annoyed with her.. she went into victim mode & dropped communication with me.. i felt like she was checking out of the relationship or she was being stubborn & expecting me to chase her
after one week of no contact from her side & two attempts by me to speak to her.. i finally decided to end it & walk away
i did try twice to talk to her before i officially ended it.. but she still seemed stubborn and angry about things
now upon reflection i can see, how i could have handled some things differently & made some mistakes & i can see where she handled things badly with me too
we both had terrible communication between us.. that was the main issue!
i,m at a stage now, where i am willing to risk reaching out to her.. i will more than likely get knocked back.. in that case i will just have to take it as a man and walk away if she does reject me
but.. something in my gut tells me, that it will not work out in the long run! i am currently romanticizing the relationship.. the reality of it could get a whole lot worse if i got back with her
if i was to reach out to her.. how much longer should i leave it for?
what are the risks of trying to get back with a girl that you once dumped? i mean the balance of power would completely shift to her right?
i have made a little positives & negatives list about her.. and its not looking good lol
POSITIVES:
amazing sex..
very affectionate..
down to earth
non drinker (does not do bars or clubs)
we have similar sense of humor
does not dress slutty
NEGATIVES:
can be rude & ****y towards me sometimes
not willing to make any effort to make up after a petty argument
goes into victim mode very easily
seems to be ready to walk away from the relationship quite easily
has LOTS of male friends, mentions other guys a lot & claims to know some drug dealers
shady with her phone.. never goes on whatsapp to check her messages around me (even with 15 unread messages there)
met her on POF
my brain & logic tells me, its a bad idea to get back with her.. but a little part of me thinks maybe we could work it out