Talk sense to me bros...

[MXM35]

Ok, great site here fellas.....lurked and read about everything over the course of this year. That being said, sometimes I think I find myself being too cynical about chicks....so read and input please.

Hung out with a girl last spring that really did it for me, but she was just out of a broken engagement and we were both traveling over the summer, so we parted ways....no break up or ill wishes, I just didnt contact her for 5 and a half months.

Fast forward to now....she saw me out over the weekend(I ignored her) and of course two days later I get the miss you, wine nights, etc...so I suggested(yes, in a frame of control) grabbing a drink, playin pool, whatever on her night off(she is in school, parents own a restaurant and she waitresses).....

We were set for tonight and as I expected(cynical, remember?) she cancels....but I do like the end of her message...see below


("Hey you, I have to cancel tonight. Surprise visit by Grandma I am sorry though. I will make it up to ya!")



Ok, beat me up, give feedback, whatever...this sh*t is tougher when you actually like the chick...

Ignore??, short emotionless reply back??, funny reply?? call her out??

I thought about replying with "Hmmm....we'll see if you actually come through on that missy..."

 

[Igetit!]

You don't need any sense talked in you,you haven't done anything wrong,stupid,or foolish. Could this girl be flaking? Yes,possibly,but maybe her grandfather did show up unexpectedly. I'd go with the short,unemotional reply. Don't say that "We'll see if you'll actually come through with that,missy" comment. That puts the ball in her court,as if you're just sitting around waiting on her to give you the go-ahead to date her.

I'd say,"Alright,I'll talk to you later" period. End of sentence. And I wouldn't call her again. Let her be the one to start the contact with you,since it was her who canceled the date in the first place. And don't just sit around by the phone biting your nails waiting for her call either. If you were to do that,then I'd say you'd need sense talked into you.

Just go on and live your life. Hang out with friends,spend time with your family,date other girls. And when this girl does finally call you back,the first thing I'd do is pretend like I don't even know who she is. Let her tell you her name,then act like you memory was jogged. This way she'll think that you just went on with your life without giving her a second thought,plus it'll show her that her cancelling the date had zero effect on you.

Also,when she calls you back,(now this is going to sound crazy),DO NOT be the one to suggest another date. That's right,you heard me. If the two of you talk for 20 minutes,and she never suggests another get-together,then at the end of the converstion,just hang up the phone. The reason I say this is because you want to find out where her head's at. We already know you're interested in her,but we need to see her interest level in you. So if she cancels a date without rescheduling another,then maybe she isn't that interested. But if she suggest another date,then well,there's your answer.

Hey man,you can do whatever you want. This is just my two pennies.

 

[MXM35]

thanks for the reply bro....and just to vent on the forum was helpful in itself....

Since she is a HB9 and is so used to getting attention(or a reaction)-I chose to not reply...AT ALL...and now, just 2 hours later she is forwarding me text jokes(a thing we used to do when we were together and she has not done since May)...so ignoring her and not even acting like it is worth my time to reply has played out well.

so, I will continue to ignore her til she does ask ME to do something with her....off to call other options......peace fellas