Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Talk of confidence is rare on these forums nowadays

Luveno

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Guys and gals,

What is the most important asset or trait that one should have?

Answer: confidence

What is the best way to get confidence?

Answer: to improve YOURSELF and everything you do. To be able to look back on who you are now a year later and be amazed at the progress you've made and what you're capable of.

What is the best way to attract women?

Answer: confidence

Everyone seems to have lost sight of this simple fact. Confidence attracts women, and also makes your life a lot better. It gets you respect, gives you energy, and makes you feel positive about life.
Out of what confidence gives you, the least important thing is WOMEN! Seriously guys, having sex with girls just isn't that important.
Think about it: sex is for reproduction, and reproduction is just immortality for dummies. You've transmitted half of a chemical that is inside of you to stick around after your death. Whoop de frickin doo. Everyone can do that. It means nothing.
What's more important is to be remembered for your contribution to the world. Martin Luther King is immortal because he stood up for what he believed in. Michael Jordan is immortal because he fought to be the best(even after everyone told him he couldn't). Einstein is immortal because of his great discoveries. If you have had a good teacher he or she is immortal because you remember them. A good doctor is immortal because he or she saves lives, and those he or she saves remember him or her.
So, to all you losers who are trying to get laid, STOP TRYING TO GET LAID! Instead, start trying to improve yourself.
The reason you aren't getting laid is because you are stagnant!
You have to get up and take your life and fix it!

Go to the gym to IMPROVE YOUR STRENGTH AND PHYSIQUE
Read books to IMPROVE YOUR KNOWLEDGE
Take up music and art to IMPROVE YOUR PERCEPTION
Talk to strangers to IMPROVE YOUR SOCIAL SKILLS
Take up finances to IMPROVE YOUR MONEY

Do NOT do all this JUST TO GET LAID!!!!! THAT IS NOT ALL THERE IS TO LIFE! STOP TRYING TO ACT "ALPHA" AND PULLING "****Y & FUNNY" AS A SOLE WAY TO GET GIRLS!!!

Life is not a video game, you nerds. There are no cheat codes.

That is that. There should be more emphasis on self-improvement on these forums, rather than C&F and all that bull****. If someone is enamored about C&F and that crap, go read Doclove on the main page or get emails from DeAngelo. That stuff is not about life improvement. Its about getting laid.

Get to work on yourself!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Well I agree. I'll admit that I'm looking to get laid but at the same time I really do want to improve more. I have been reading self-improvement forums for a year now but this place has been one of the best so far. I think the original poster is right. It's about confidence. With confidence, you won't worry about getting laid in the first place. You'll be enjoying life and not treating women as important. I feel that I have acheived piece in being single but still want to work on my confidence more. This place has definitely helped so far. Thanks guys!
 

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Caldus,

you will truly improve when you are not looking to get laid.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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New breath into a gold topic!

Well put Luveno ;)

Always good to read the good word !!
 
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