"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Talk about relapsing to comfort zone

Cry For Love

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Alright, we are all mortal, we all have issues, time to talk and share how we have let go of our social life goals due to our wimpiness and relapsed into comfort zone loser-ness one time or another, AND analyze what excuses we used to justify that. Admitting our mistakes is the first step to self improvement.

Myself: Did bootcamp for a couple of weeks, night club cold approaches, but then after little luck in actually getting women, got discouraged and justified letting go of social activities with the need to study more and take university seriously. Obviously, the social life instead got replaced by virtual entertainment, but ive had trouble admitting it. But the new boot camp is a good way to get back into the game, FOR REAL. This Squirrels' post really rang a bell too http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=131877

Anyway, would love to read others' stories and get encouragement to get out of the rut by sharing our failures.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Unbridled_Phoenix

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Pushing the comfort zone is the only way we grow as men, my friend. The comfort zone is a very broad term, I think you only equate it to socializing and approaching girls. Generally speaking, we push our comfort zone any time we do something we never thought we could or would do. We push the comfort zone by making courage and ambition our favorite allies in every arena of life (personal, professional, etc.), and recognizing the fear which surrounds our individual campfires. Sure, there are wolves out there in the dark, but I've got bullets in my rifle and the will to do what I will.
 

MisterMcGee

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You don't have to go clubbing to get out of your comfort zone. Like phoenix said, just do things other than e-entertainment and you'll feel fine as rain.
 
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