"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Talk about LMR!

Luveno

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This is kind of a hilarious story, so prepare yourselves:

So I meet this chick. Not entirely my type - short legs, not in great shape, but not fat though, just kind of contour-less. Kind of a cat-lady who exhibits a few of my red flags: inhumanly died hair, obsession with cats, chain-smoker etc. Either way she's a good conversation so I go "what the heck". We go all around town. Turns out she has a lot of bouncer and bartender friends who get me in without cover charges, and get me tons of free drinks. When the drinks aren't free, she's buying them for me. And these are not cheap drinks - ANOTHER red flag.

Anyway, time comes when she is basically begging to get taken back to my place. So I'm like "what the heck".

I take her back, we sit down, she basically gets down to underwear etc. Now, she does not have the excellent figure that I'm used to so I essentially only want a BJ from the whole thing. She mentions that she could have better legs. I agree. She breaks out in tears and runs out the door.

End of story. I'm left thinking I dodged a major bullet.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The King has no class. But there's another problem here - she's buddies with all those bartenders and bouncers. Hope it's not a small town, friend, b/c otherwise you may have just pissed in your bed.
 

Luveno

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I live my life through brutal honesty, which suits me just fine. I'm quite successful in life so it must be working for me. If everyone were as brutally honest as me, people would know what they need to change in life, and the world would be a better place.

If a girl asks me if she looks big in jeans, and she does, I tell her so. It's not classless. It's honest. Either way, there are far too many girls out there, many of whom look just fine in anything they wear, for this to be an issue for men. Sexy girls just aren't a scarce resource.

In hindsight, she knew she could have better legs, and was looking for someone to tell her she was wrong. She was not expecting someone to tell her she was right. If anything, it might motivate her to get better legs. If not, who cares? Certainly not me. Typical AW behavior.


It's not a small town. I would never live in a small hick town. I like anonymity. So I'm not really concerned about x or y person in the service industry getting in my face about it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Luveno said:
If everyone were as brutally honest as me, people would know what they need to change in life, and the world would be a better place.
Time and a place my friend.

A chick having a ONS, feeling sexy, vulnerable and in the moment, wanting brutal honesty? Your dreaming.

Uncalled for and unprofessional in my honest opinion. And this is coming from someone whos "brutal honesty" could probably make your head spin at times.
 

Bible_Belt

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Agreed. Getting a naked chick to cry is no accomplishment.

Even if you only care about yourself, you didn't get the bl0wjob you said you wanted. She's traumatized, and you're still horny - no one wins.
 

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Heheh,...I've got $10 here that says she calls you back for a second shot within a week.

Any takers?
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Heheh,...I've got $10 here that says she calls you back for a second shot within a week.

Any takers?
He was a jerk through and through but I think your right, if she has his number, she'll likely call him up again under the guise of calling him out, but its really cuz she can't get enough of him.

But I agree with the others that agreeing with her was just stupid. If you don't want to bang a slightly less than attractive women, don't be an idiot and waste your time inviting her back to your house. Its pretty simple.
 
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