Taking up a hobby

[Horizon]

Hi fellow DJs!

After reading the DJ Bible (with most attention to the Pook's posts), I started thinking of taking up a hobbie or two, just not to rely on chicks or friends in my happiness. I am "building my tower" (read career) at work, but, you know, it's work and I don't want to become (or even appear as) a workaholic.

Still, everything I can come up with is somewhat "nerdy" or, even worse, computer-related. And my goal is rather to find a hobby that would help me to socialize and that would help me to stand out from the crowd - that is, I am trying to kill two birds with one stone I have something in my bag, namely collecting rather world music (this sometimes helps me to invite girls to my place ), but, this does not help my socialization - very few people in my city are interested in this kind of stuff.

So, if you have any ideas you would like to share - you would be more than welcome!

P.S. Interenstingly enough, I used to have a number of hobbies when I was in high school and in the university - but somehow I gradually lost my passion when I started working. And those were, again, nerdy - programming computer games, mystics and sorcery, science...

 

[Chillisauce]

Firstly, what field of work are you in, how old are you and are you willing to take up a more physical hobby?

I've kinda structured my hobbies so they act as a synergy for my career as well (international business). I'm learning Japanese, play golf, train in martial arts, studying ancient theology, mythology and philosophy. Ok i'll stop with the personal add haha.

Basically any hobby that makes you have to leave your home should improve your social life. Theres no use taking up a hobby that you get no pleasure from, just to socialise.

Heres some things you might like to think about: Taking up a musical instrument, learning a language, Writing your own music, learning how to shoot a gun, Taking dancing classes, games of chance + board games (marjong[sp], chess), Taking a sales course, improving your body through gym + regimented eating, taking up a martial arts or sport, learning some magic tricks, studying a field that interests you, icescalpting, painting, carving. That's all i have on my to-do list at the moment, hopefully it gets some ideas going.

If you live in a reasonably sized place you should be able to find a place where people come together to do the above.

I'll leave you with a quote from Bastista Alberts

'A man can do all things if he will'

 

[dr_devious]

Try taking up a sport, of if your not really into sports start going to the gym or swimming - theres always plenty of fit women at the gym or baths .
Other ideas are hit the bars & clubs, do a night school class, volunteer groups. None of these are guaranteed to get you a woman but you might enjoy yourself more in the mean time.

 

[Horizon]

Originally posted by Chillisauce
Firstly, what field of work are you in, how old are you and are you willing to take up a more physical hobby?

I am 27 and I am in the management in software development. The hobby shouldn't be necessarily physical, I rather want it just not to be something computer or technology-related.

Now on to the social life and your hobby ideas. Here's what I have tried so far:

Painting (or rather drawing) - this was inspired by one of my ex-girlfriends who is an artist. Not really social though, unless you know fellow artists beforehand (and that girl has had a small social circle either). However, I might reconsider it because one girl I want to seduce (see my very first post here on this topic) turned out to be into painting and drawing as well.
Hell, it's still about girls - looks like it's gonna take a while to change my thinking.

Chess - was really into that one summer but gave up because my only friend who liked the game too gradually lost his passion. Again, it was kinda "external" inspiration. Now that I am typing it, I feel somewhat concerned as I seem to start recognizing the pattern.

Writing my own music - Oh well, my buddies once called me a DJ (meaning Disk Jockey of course) when I conjured up a song in a piece of software called Dance Machine. This one is a really good idea, but my only concern here is since computers are involved, such hobby won't make me leave my home or socialize a lot (if only for sample swapping

). I used to be into some demo making too, but again - nerdy stuff.

Well, enough rambling. Here's what I am going to try:

Photography - Many people in the company I work for do this stuff, it's fun, it's creative, I can decorate my home with nice printed photos, and it's a nice excuse to invite girls (oh no, the girls again, but is this the DJ forum or what? )

Bicycle riding - well I have some negative anchors from my childhood with this one, but will try to overcome them.

Fortunately I know guys who can assist me with that.

Given I don't have much free time since I run my household on my own, this should be enough for starters. In the end, it looks like my issues are more about the frame of mind (focusing too much on the chicks) rather than about particular hobbies to take up.