taking things way too literally

[GQzSwagStarFamous]

hi hows every one doing? i believe in being totally honest so i'll admit first off that it takes time for most girls to feel attraction for me. Where as most of the dudes at my school and my friends can get a girl to sleep with them the same nite. so since that would be a problem where any girl i talked to would have her attention taking away. i decided to look up the signs of how to know when a girl is interested so i can get her sooner and make her so into me the other dudes wont have a chance. but it has back fired. im taking signs too literally and i would be extremely grateful for any advice at all thanks a million.

 

[Ambition Now]

You sound like you have zero experience in the game...

Im no game master but Ill try to help the way I can.

Lets start from the begining, you said you "believe in being totally honest".
You should know that if you be totally honest in this dirty game, you will get burned badly.

I am not saying for you to be a complete jerk (but that would probably help you a lot) but dont come with that honesty and sincerity when trying to game girls, ok?

You need to be way more agressive, not a time for waiting the signs, go approaching and asking girls out like crazy, you will get rejected a lot, but dont let this put you away from your goal, wich is get more experience.

Also you need to focus on others aspect of your life and dont let girls BE your life... hit the gym, read books, make new friends, hang out with people from different social circles.

That may help you.

 

[GQzSwagStarFamous]

thanks ambition. Its not that i dont have any experience. I have gotten a few girlfriends and friends with benefits sucessfully and i was doing pretty good. A lot of my friends think i'm smooth i have no problems at all getting a phone number or setting up a time to meet.

Since i came to college it seemed like i lost it. Everything i do is like it has no effect and it seems like the major problems i'm having is taking signs of interest too literal too early and i don't want to approach every girl because it's a small campus everyone knows everyone. i just don't want to be the guy that all the girls say, "oh he tried to talk to me. yea he tried to talk to me to. well he's talking to me now but not no more cause he tried to talk to yall two." do you get what im saying? this happened to me in high school i dont want to see it happen again.

 

[Ambition Now]

I see what you mean GQzSwagStarFamous.

The thing is that you are entering on a new social circle (the college one), so I think you should focus more on being the fun guy than focus on getting girls right now.

You should be the one calling people to hang out and trying to making new friends. Go out to parties, concerts, bars and stuff... pretty soon you will build some social proof and girls will be willing to hang out with you. If you do that will be very easy to get girls.

I also know what you mean about worring what girls will be thinking about you if you start approaching them on a small campus where everyone know each other. I used to be the exact same way.

But this is a wrong way of thinking... firstly you shouldnt limit your social life to a small campus, get in contact with people outside of your campus also!
Try to make friends everywhere you go!

Second, you should stop worring what girls you think, girls are followers, they are sheeps, they cant think by their own... its not your problem, its theirs.

The way they think is the way they were led to think by their social group, thats why im telling you to forget girls right now and try to be the guy that everyone likes to party with.

 

[GQzSwagStarFamous]

thanks a lot ambition. You have been the greatest help so far. i have asked a lot of people for advice and no one really knows what to tell me so many thanks to you and the owners of sosuave.com

 

[Ambition Now]

No problem and good luck!

 

[GQzSwagStarFamous]

i have one more question for you. how do you handle this situation. you are texing or comminicating in some way electronically other than actually talking over the phone. everything is going smoothly you brought your A game but then her friend who is not emotionally tied in like she is starts talking and replying for her and kills everything that you threw at her that would have normally worked. Now i have seen two of my homegirls struggle to flirt with one guy he had both of them baffled as to what to say next now i want to achieve this.