"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Taking Things Too Seriously...

Jon55

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I'm a little freaked out. I'm only in my very early twenties and I feel like I'm becoming too serious. I feel like I've lost my sense of humor. I used to smile all the time and laugh at everything (everything that was acceptable to laugh at...not like if a person died). Now I feel very self-conscious and am always analyzing my life (long term stuff, like goals, etc.).

It's just unsettling cuz I always used to look at people like me and say "Wow! How could anyone be so serious all the time? I'll never become like that." Irony at its best. It's not like I never joke around, I just find I have a much harder time not taking everything so seriously. :(

Is it possible to be mature but also young at heart?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Desert Fox

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I'm not even 20 yet and I think like that. goals goals goals. Don't get me wrong I waste a lot...a LOT of time, but yeah I constantly obsess over stuff like where my life is going, what goals I need to do and how I need to excel. Not to mention I am becoming pretty misanthropic as well. I don't see a problem with it, but I think it's better to be mature like this because I cut so much petty BS out of my life and am further along w/my future career preparations than my peers because I didn't screw around.

If you don't have a problem with your life style, then there's no problem. If you think you need more laughter, then loosen up a little. Watch more comedy.

but if you're like me and don't really care and don't see a huge problem with it, then there's absolutely no problem.
 

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I have something to tell you that may really help.

Remember how you were as a kid? You didn't care about anything except being happy. Your clothes were a mess, your hair was a wreck, you had grubby hands, yet you were happy and didn't care. Start spending your time as if you want each moment to me the best.

When you were a kid, you didn't worry about the future, and you sure as hell didn't care about the past. You just lived life in the moment. So, do that. Live your life carefree and from moment to moment. Stop clouding you thoughts with expectations and regret. Live in the NOW! Just like a kid. It's all that really matters.

Oh, and remember how you used to be mean to the girls you liked? Act like that too because that's really what works. Girls don't like nice guys that are at their beck and call.
 

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Mavrick said:
I have something to tell you that may really help.

Remember how you were as a kid? You didn't care about anything except being happy. Your clothes were a mess, your hair was a wreck, you had grubby hands, yet you were happy and didn't care. Start spending your time as if you want each moment to me the best.

When you were a kid, you didn't worry about the future, and you sure as hell didn't care about the past. You just lived life in the moment. So, do that. Live your life carefree and from moment to moment. Stop clouding you thoughts with expectations and regret. Live in the NOW! Just like a kid. It's all that really matters.

Oh, and remember how you used to be mean to the girls you liked? Act like that too because that's really what works. Girls don't like nice guys that are at their beck and call.
It's just irritating. This quote:
Realising that being bold is FUN. Being insecure is boring and stressing and stupid
I know I should live by it, but it just feel so hard to overcome that invisible wall in my mind.
 
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