Taking the red pill up my ass

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don Juan

Aug 24, 2016

Dude, it's possible to get very attached and codependent and find yourself in a toxic spiral, seeing your only solution as fixing what can't be fixed. You tried too hard, too long and you're just worn out in the head.

Can't you consult your family regarding your brother? It would benefit you clearing that one up either way.

marmel's being a pr1ck. Take some time out, eat well, excercise, work out, walk, jog, see a person-centered therapist..............you know the drill.

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.