"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Taking Control

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There is no better disposition with women than when you take control.

I was first pointed to SS in 2004 by an alpha coworker after my divorce. Took me two years to even join, but I recall him saying "take control" over and over and over.

My most recent ex came over tonight. Bought me something for $6.50 that she knew I had been wanting to buy at a regular price of at least $100.00.

We did a deed. She asked if she could sleep for 2.5 hours before going to work third shift. I said sure, but I got up and left the bedroom after I released my white lefty gloop.

Not long after my daughter, 11, called me. We were talking our usual redneck humor which, truth be told, the ex tolerated most of, but sometimes it was a little much for the ex. My daughter made a derogatory comment about one of her female teachers at school. I responded back "Yeah she was probably on per period, don't take it personally".

My ex SCREAMMED from my bedroom "you just hate all women don't you! You are clueless and controlling. Quit talking to your daughter that way!"

I told my daughter I loved her and hung up. Then yelled at my ex "yes I am whatever you say and don't you have to go to work now?".

She said "I don't have to leave for another hour and a half".. I said "thats when you have to work but not when you have to leave. Cuz when you have to leave is NOW. you don't live here anymore. And I say it is time to go now"..

She said "WTF am I going to do until time to go to work"..

I said "Go drive around, look up at the stars, look up to see whats in orbit around you, and go get it.."..

SHe said "whaaaat?" I said "you will figure it out you are smart, or at least you act like you are smarter than me, so figure it out. thanks for the sex, it was great, now get the fvck out of my house. you disrecpected me and crossed the line".

She said "you probably are having your new girlfriend come over".

I said "no new girlfriends, but who I have over is my business not yours anymore, now get the F out.. Call me again when you miss me but try to be more respectful next time you initiate conversation or I won't see you".

She said "whatever" . put her cloths on and left.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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@Midnight I've been called the same before lol

She came over, brought be a gift, had sex with me, but then treated me with disrespect so I kicked her to the curb with no remorse, delay, or second thoughts :kick:

But last night she texted me again and wanted to get together sometime today. Her text started with "hey a$$hole......." lol

It just proves, YET AGAIN, that women can't get enough of men who genuinely don't give a fvck, stand firm, and are willing to take control and not look back .

I honestly didn't think I would hear from her again, or at least not for a long time.
 

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MidnightCity said:
yup. gotta do what you gotta do.

this is the result of not caring for the outcome.

im sure you know by now, but most guys would be amazed at how shltty some women are willing....no CRAVE to be treated
Honestly, no matter how many times I see it/hear about it, women's response to behavior that has little regard for their feelings astounds me XD

If you told me this just 2-3 years ago, I would've laughed and white-knighted at y'all all day. But now, it makes sense it me, it just still is surprisingly counterintuitive; and there's something that goes off in my head whenever I see something like this - "damn, wow lol, the dominance works".

Maybe one day I'll fully wrap my head around it...at the moment, I think I'm still too attached and go out of my way for people and have some 'nice guy' tendencies >_>

Any tips on how to cultivate a mindset of "don't give a fvck?"
 

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Konduit said:
Honestly, no matter how many times I see it/hear about it, women's response to behavior that has little regard for their feelings astounds me XD

If you told me this just 2-3 years ago, I would've laughed and white-knighted at y'all all day. But now, it makes sense it me, it just still is surprisingly counterintuitive; and there's something that goes off in my head whenever I see something like this - "damn, wow lol, the dominance works".

Maybe one day I'll fully wrap my head around it...at the moment, I think I'm still too attached and go out of my way for people and have some 'nice guy' tendencies >_>

Any tips on how to cultivate a mindset of "don't give a fvck?"
It took me until my mid 30s to believe the things I had thought of about women my whole life and seen before my eyes but still didn't believe them. Especially when I only have a couple male friends to "get it" with women, the rest are white nights just like you say.

For me, and likely other guys too, I developed the "I don't give a fvck attitude" after I had made the life for myself that I wanted, met some major goals, and realized that women are all all no different than beer. You drink it, you enjoy yourself, have fun, and then next day it's gone.. Only to be replaced by more beer next time you want it.

If it happens to be the same women again, consider yourself lucky, but don't expect it. Then you are sure not to be disappointed and you will quit giving a fvck because you will expect that woman X won't be there tomorrow and will be replaced by woman Y.

Like I said before, I was a real d|ck to my ex the other night and really didn't expect to hear from her as quick as I did. But the act of me not caring and being such a d|ck made her \|/ wet and she had to have more.
 

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"you probably are having your new girlfriend come over"

Actually it's Stacy, Lacy, and Tracy from the club..so it's 3 girlfriends, biznitch!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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