Taking compliments

[saturos]

I suck at taking compliments from girls. With small compliments i'm fine, and i can respond with seeming like an idiot, but with comments that are kind of awkward, i never know what to say except for thanks.
What am i supposed to sayy????

 

[SinJester]

Nothing wrong with thank you. That is what a secure man will usually say. Don't get nervous, just stay calm. It's perfectly normal and it's nice to be complemented. Don't say 'yeah I am pretty good', that's being ****y and overcompensating. Don't say 'no I'm not really...', that's going to far the other way and is being insecure. Actually the first is just as insecure as the second. "Thanks ", she gave you a compliment, she will feel like an idiot if you do anything else.

Don't worry man, I used have that question myself. Hope I can help

 

[saturos]

Well, the thing is, if its in the middle of a conversation, which it usually ends up being, at least for me, i feel like i should say something back, otherwise the conversation kinda stops. Or just something to not have an awkward pause or end to the talk.
Also, i'm usually really sarcastic and witty, especially to teachers (haha they all hate me), and it makes an impression on others, so saying thanks sometimes makes them think i'm being sarcastic or the like.

 

[saturos]

No other thoughts on how to respond?

And on another note, what does AFC mean? I've seen it around alot.

 

[619joe]

A thanks is fine bro.

Dont think just because your "gaming" her you need to come out with all this fancy shmancy talk.Just for simple stuff like this just a thank you is good enough.

 

[SinJester]

It's only awkward because your trying to think of something witty to say. Just let go, say whatever is in your head. Even if it's 'you know, you are really cool but I honestly can't think of what to say'. Hey that could work for the compliment too, 'hey thanks I don't know what to say ' If you are honest and sincere, they shouldn't think you are sarcastic. If they do make it clear that you werent. Maybe you should turn it down just a bit in your everyday life.

AFC = Average Frustrated Chump

 

[BlakeW5]

"Thanks" or "You have good taste"

The first works fine. The second is a little ****y, but compliments her as well. I've found it works quite well

 

[OTB]

Mad props to the OP for asking this question!

This came across my mind several times, but for some reason I never bothered to actually ask it on here

"Thanks" or "You have good taste"

The first works fine. The second is a little ****y, but compliments her as well. I've found it works quite well

Yeah BlakeW5, I'm actually gonna be using that one a lot

 

[Groovy]

Be natural! Don't take it as a test, like "Oh snap! I got complemented! I must have an dj response so that I can give out the vibe that I'm okay with myself, high status, etc. etc." So much stuff went through my mind in these simple situations, I know what it's like. :nervous: But the reality is that the more you think in things, the more complicated they are going to seem, and the wierder you are going to appear...

Just don't program yourself to think. "I got complemented. I must say something C&F" Most likley you'll say "uuhmm! yeah you have good taste ("I can't smile to show I'm high status"). And the girl will give you that puzzled look, you'll get embarresed and break EC... DAmn, SS failed me! I suck! Must regain aproval!

However, you as a dj, are suposed to be social! :cheer: You can say thank you, that works fine. You can try C&F to look like high status, but that may blow it and you can look wierd. But, if you feel like it, you can take the opportunity to high five, or some other stuff you think in, (Don't pre-program yourself! If you think it in the moment it's going to be more natural so think for yourself!!) if it's a girl, you can hug her really hard and say "Yooo thanks!" like a maniac!

All of these things sound crazy but it's way more fun then just a "yeah I get that a lot" to show status, and it's your opportunity to be crazy! You're confident so you can do that, at least to look back and think "Wow I did that? Thank was crazy, awsome and it felt good!". Sometimes the girl will even get nervous around you. So step out of your comfort zone!

 

[Bible_Belt]

I agree with the advice that a simple 'thank you' is the best answer. Remember that words from women mean next to nothing anyway, and that will keep you from getting a big head. All compliments from women really mean the same thing - "I like you and want you to like me back." That is what she is really saying, and that is what you are thanking her for.

 

[Relationship-Buddy]

There is nothing wrong with staying simple:

"Thanks." *while flashing a smile*

Good Luck,
Relationship-Buddy