"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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taking care of yourself....

sav

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you have to learn to take care of yourself before you can start looking for something serious...

i was talking to a FB of mine and she mentioned how i was slipping... how i always take care of myself but not my surroundings (my place was a mess)

it really got me thinking, that taking care of yourself (in every aspect in life) just demonstrates your self worth, how much value you put onto yourself, and in turn how much REAL value a girl will put on u..

sure you can go through life faking confidence, looking good when u go out, making sure your place is clean before some people come over.. but until thats engraved in your everyday habits and way of thinking, u will never develop something serious with somebody else... so remember, take care of everything you do in life... have all bases covered, not just a couple and things will start happening for you...

just rambling my thoughts, feel free to leave yours :)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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agree with you 100%.... by taking care of yourself, you keep yourself busy, meaning your mind on you and not someone else... (also dont forget excercise).... You know what I also realize.. a lot of times a girl is using an excuse when her IL is lower, fact of the matter is, it's another way she is telling you "i can do better" u know... so improve yourself and you will reap the rewards... also.. note.. once you get better, are you still going to want her? :)
 

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For a time I got really organized and I was doing really well in school and everything i attempted. It all started with cleaning my room, and keeping it clean. lol. But the next thing you know I bounced back from a dry spell and had a few girls over that summer. Your room/house is a reflection of what's going on inside your head. So care for yourself! Women notice these things... but remember who you're doing it for.
 

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TruthHurts said:
agree with you 100%.... by taking care of yourself, you keep yourself busy, meaning your mind on you and not someone else... (also dont forget excercise).... You know what I also realize.. a lot of times a girl is using an excuse when her IL is lower, fact of the matter is, it's another way she is telling you "i can do better" u know... so improve yourself and you will reap the rewards... also.. note.. once you get better, are you still going to want her? :)
hehe, this is a ****buddy ;) its always nice to have a female perspective on things, you can learn a lot to improve....

what you have to learn is to be balanced in all area's of your life and not just excel at one...

you have to be fit, clean, ambitious, motivated and successful and once you have accomplished that, your personal life will fall into place...
 
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