"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Taking a DJ's Girlfriend

the pokemaster

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I've recently started getting involved with a girl at my workplace with a boyfiend. From what she's told me he seems to have the typical attributes of a high status male. He doesn't pay her much attention. Has loads of girls interested in him, goes to nightclubs, etc. She believes he's lost interest. And I'm thinking that its through her insecurities in her relationship why she's liking my attention.

I'm finding it quite tricky to run a boyfriend destroyer on him as I can't really make him out to be a major AFC, unless I refer to him when they first started going out 3 months ago. Apparently he wanted to tattoo his name on her arm, always used 2 say I love you, take her shopping, pay for meals etc. When she talks about how he used 2 be I say something like, 'oh how sweet, he seems like such a nice guy... Get him to take me shopping aswell lol etc.'

I was also thinking about what void she might have in her relationship. I figured it could only be attention and excitement. I don't wanna give her top much attention because then it could lower my status in her eyes. However I think flirty attention and good kino seems to be working for me.

She's already stayed round my house and I seduced her but not enough to have sex with me. We kissed, I fingered her and then licked her out. When I was about to push my **** in her she pulled the I have a boyfriend card on me. *****. However this was on the first date.

What I'd like some advice on is the boyfriend destroyer. He seems to be doing exactly what an an AFC shouldn't do. I was thinking say something like o well really he seems like a saint compared to me, you seem to have a safe catch there lol. Or do you think this sounds 2 risky.

I'm fairly new to the boyfriend destroyer technique so please help me out if I'm going absolutely wrong. I've only started using it. Before I was just playing ****y funny then the day after my attempt at sex she pulled a LJBF.

I responded to this by saying to her yeah sure she'd make a great friend and subtly reminded her that I have other prospects and its no biggie. I reminded her again last night and she admitted she feels weird when I talk about seeing other girls even though we're just friends lol.

She brings up her boyfriend a lot now she knows I'm seeing other girls so I just need some more boyfriend destroyer patterns at the moment.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sounds like he's an idiot... not a DJ. He has ignored her to the point she thinks he is losing interest in her. If he were a real DJ she'd have no question that he's interested in her, and she would still have the feeling of excitement that he is interesting and unpredictable at times.

That said... I think the biggest thing that's hurting you is her knowledge that you're seeing other women. Since she has a BF, she is going to want a BF if she swings over to your branch. She doesn't want some guy that's playing the field with her and several other contenders.... she already practically has that and obviously doesn't like it. Drop the other girls or forget about this one... I don't think you've really got any other [honest] options.
 

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interesting. i hear where your coming from. well im sure i could say im getting tired of the chase and she'd buy it. I could start filling the void by actually doing unpredictable exciting things with her. However i don't wanna end up the guy she like spending time with but not the guy she has sex with. She lets her boyfriend use her for sex.
 

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Has loads of girls interested in him, goes to nightclubs, etc. She believes he's lost interest. And I'm thinking that its through her insecurities in her relationship why she's liking my attention.


Act like it's obvious that he's cheating on her and she is naive not to realize it. If she's insecure, she'll believe it, and she'll get back at him by having sex with you.
 

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lol seems like next time i talk to her im gonna have a drastic change of tune, Its kool though it will keep her guessing at least.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Elti Boi said:
She's already stayed round my house and I seduced her but not enough to have sex with me. We kissed, I fingered her and then licked her out. When I was about to push my **** in her she pulled the I have a boyfriend card on me. *****. However this was on the first date.
If this was a first date, then why are you worried so much about him?! she sounds like a typical cheating slut.

Just continue to do what you are doing with her and don't even mention him. Pretend as if doesn't even exists and just act like she is a typical plate.

Next time let her suck your d1ck instead of licking her out and don't satisfy her with your finger or tounge but use your hands all over her body to tease her until she is so wet she will almost beg you to put your c0ck inside of her.
 

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because she keeps bringing him up and moaning about how he treats her bad. and she gave me the LJBF.
but i will tease her next time. :p

i need something to respond with when he comes up. I'll change my tune and make him out to be cheating scum.
 
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