strong like bull
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what do you guys think about taking break in relationships?
is it always a sign of the relationship going down the tube, or is it something that could come back around?
my girlfriend and i have had a great 8 mos together. no regrets... but were at a point now where shes a full-time student, part time job, sports and has serious family issues goin' on. i could see it coming... shes been very overwhelmed lately and has little time for herself, let alone us. her schedules gonna be this way for the next 5 months. ive been in the game long enough to say that i honestly dont think she wants the break because of another man. i genuinely know she still loves me. but i know with her schedule and mine we really dont have time to commit anymore.
she brought it up; i played it cool and told her that i respect her decision and i agree its not fair to either of us. if it was meant to be we'd cross paths again down the road... and left it at that.
she text me later that night and told me she loved me and goodnight. i didnt respond.. she text me the next morning and told me she couldnt sleep at all that night and didnt want to lose me forever... i didnt respond.
im looking at it in a positive way; i need to focus on myself more and accomplish my goals and not be distracted for a while. she needs to do the same.
im not upset or resentful or anything like that... but do breaks ever come back around positively? i took her virginity and i know she cares about me, and shes honestly the only girl (and ive had lots ) ive thought about keeping around, moving in together or even marrying...
obviously im not gonna play the fool and hold my breath.. and if a good opportunity comes my way i might take it.. but whats the best way to handle these types of situations?
for better or worse, i wouldnt be opposed to focusing on myself for the next 5-6 months and if it happened that our schedules freed up and we had time to commit, pickin' up where we left off as i think we'd both be much more prepared for a solid commitment then. for what its worth, she was upfront about her school and family and career issues, and i saw and felt them before she told me. i could see her gettin' more and more stressed, due to these things. nothing that i was doin' wrong. her actions and her words have been 100% congruent throughout our 8months of a monogamous relationship, up to and including now.
thoughts?
-SLB
is it always a sign of the relationship going down the tube, or is it something that could come back around?
my girlfriend and i have had a great 8 mos together. no regrets... but were at a point now where shes a full-time student, part time job, sports and has serious family issues goin' on. i could see it coming... shes been very overwhelmed lately and has little time for herself, let alone us. her schedules gonna be this way for the next 5 months. ive been in the game long enough to say that i honestly dont think she wants the break because of another man. i genuinely know she still loves me. but i know with her schedule and mine we really dont have time to commit anymore.
she brought it up; i played it cool and told her that i respect her decision and i agree its not fair to either of us. if it was meant to be we'd cross paths again down the road... and left it at that.
she text me later that night and told me she loved me and goodnight. i didnt respond.. she text me the next morning and told me she couldnt sleep at all that night and didnt want to lose me forever... i didnt respond.
im looking at it in a positive way; i need to focus on myself more and accomplish my goals and not be distracted for a while. she needs to do the same.
im not upset or resentful or anything like that... but do breaks ever come back around positively? i took her virginity and i know she cares about me, and shes honestly the only girl (and ive had lots ) ive thought about keeping around, moving in together or even marrying...
obviously im not gonna play the fool and hold my breath.. and if a good opportunity comes my way i might take it.. but whats the best way to handle these types of situations?
for better or worse, i wouldnt be opposed to focusing on myself for the next 5-6 months and if it happened that our schedules freed up and we had time to commit, pickin' up where we left off as i think we'd both be much more prepared for a solid commitment then. for what its worth, she was upfront about her school and family and career issues, and i saw and felt them before she told me. i could see her gettin' more and more stressed, due to these things. nothing that i was doin' wrong. her actions and her words have been 100% congruent throughout our 8months of a monogamous relationship, up to and including now.
thoughts?
-SLB