Taken a virgin. Buyers remorse

[charlezz]

Long story short, I had sex with a hot chick, turned out unexpectedly she's a virgin and pretty conservative. She's 26 years old. we have known one another for 2months; comfort and attraction have been built. After we had sex, she seems to be in pain and in a slight "state of shock" refusing to talk to me.

The next day, contact is minimal and I did delibrately be slight AFC and check if she's alright so and so. Fluff text a bit;
she finally texted "I am scared of you and hate you... I hope tomorrow I will feel better..."
We live nearby, so I asked if she wanna meet. No replies, didn't contact her again for this day.

She's a potential LTR quality.. Can see buyer's remorse shadowing her..

Any one had any experience in dealing with her? Let her cool down first?

 

[ebracer05]

Yea. She wouldn't have had sex if she really was a virgin at 26 if she wasn't extremely attracted to you.

This is just buyers remorse. Don't start acting like an AFC. If you like her, keep being the man and doing what you know to do. Go ghost for a little while. You just became the most alpha guy in the girl's life by virtue of being the first guy to have sex with her. Do you really think she's going anywhere?

Girls say stuff like that and I don't even think they know what they're saying... they just know they have a feeling and words start coming out of their mouths that may or may not match up to that feeling. She was probably right when she said she is scared of you because she realizes the power that you have over her. And when she says she hates you, what she's really saying is that she hates herself for making what she views through the lens of hindsight and the potential for others to find out as a bad decision. Think about her ending line:

I hope tomorrow I feel better

This is all about her bro. She feels like a slut because she's got some values that she compromised. She's probably a very religious type of something and is considering the ramifications of her actions against the motif of what she's believed her entire life... not logically obviously, but through a lens of feelings. And she may also have some sort of a feeling that she's messed up the rest of her life because as a potentially religious girl, her chastity is gone and from her perspective in the church, her value has just been downgraded significantly. That's probably where she's coming from.

In the future, don't ask if she wants to meet. You had sex with her and have known her for 2 months. If you want something, just tell her.

Go ghost for a little bit and she will contact you, trust me. If you fall off the radar and she thinks she lost you after all this, she'll run back to you even harder. The worst thing you can do right now is show your hand and turn the locus of power over to her.

Just keep being the man.

 

[PapiChulo]

26 and a virgin.....Are you serious? Where do you get these women? You know it is possible for them to turn "virgin" if there is no penetration for a long time.

 

[timmylivingalie]

Yea she is probaly feeling buyers remorse and shocked she lost virginity.

 

[charlezz]

26 and a virgin.....Are you serious? Where do you get these women? You know it is possible for them to turn "virgin" if there is no penetration for a long time.

1 in 100000 chance I guess.

 

[charlezz]

Ebracer. Thanks for the advice. Sounds like what I intend to do. Your advice just reinforced my decision

 

[loveshogun]

She's a potential LTR quality.

I didn't realize women who despise themselves after having sex were LTR material.

You might have remorse. You may have even done something wrong (I don't think you did).

Who knows, she might change her mind six months down the road and get used to the idea of having sex. Or she might not.

My question is, why is it so important for you to find out?