"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Take the 20 approach challenge.

ElStud

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Well basically I was out today and for whatever reason, I challenged myself to approach 20 sets in one day... the results? Well, I got 5 numbers, so I got succeeded in atleast a quarter of those sets. One girl even sh*t tested me with "I have a boyfriend" and I plowed through it and got her to give me her number, with her boyfriend standing right there. But yeah, I know it's hard, trust me I did it, but take the 20 approach challenge. Basically all you have to do is... approach 20 sets in one day. You don't have to get their numbers, you don't have to have success in the set, but you must simply, approach.

But what is the purpose of the challenge? Well, one of the purposes is, getting good at just going from one set, to the next set, without thinking about the last set too much. Secondly, if you have approach anxiety this could help you. Thirdly, this'll help you push yourself to approach when you don't really feel like it. Lastly, it'll just overall help you improve with approaching women.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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guywhoneedshelp

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Around campus I'll just talk to random people. Mention an observation, "cold out today", something like that. Some hot girls will really stop and talk.
 

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Im gonna troll all your post you make and see this. We know you can approach, congrats, youre amazing. Get a F*CKING date! Just one date and people may actually think youre not as big as a tool as you seem to be.
 

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$100 says that number wasn't real.

She just gave it to you so you would leave her the F alone. I'm guessing she wasn't too charmed by your Yoshi noises.
 

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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