Night-hawk
Master Don Juan
We've all came across it before from a girl, where her praises get to our heads, and we become so balloon headed with ego spoon feedings...but was it all worth the taste or did it become an all too common and expected thing for you to where you become so bloated and fat that the slightest changes in her behavior/actions turned certainty into suspision and a healthy diet of self affirmation to an unhealthy hunger for her validation.
It's all to common, that when a girl's praise gets to a guys head, it can become detrimental to his previous self fed validation. We can forget that girls use such tactis (many subconscious tools of manipulation) to gain favorability over other females, to where the male becomes dependent upon his woman as the female force that qualifies his masculine identity.
This, I believe, is what leads many guys to narrowing their indifference down to a more emotionally fragile position with a woman, to where he takes a tighter grasp on his woman in fear she will put her praises onto other males. Threat of compettion then raises if she starts to stray from her common routine of making him feel like
1) He is the most special guy over any other guy
2) Where straying from him is impossible
3) That he can loosen up and not care so much in keeping his game sharp
4) That she is different than any other girl
5) That her feelings of him become more important than his own
You get the idea I'm sure.
This becomes an illusion he falls into as he becomes more enchanted by her and how she inflates his ego. This can create judgemental and over sensitive ways of perceiving his and the girls relationship, especially when his identity becomes caught up in this perfect image of guy/ girl bliss. However, it's not until he is so far in that dissenchantment comes at a cost of losing his sense of self, and fighting over suspisions with his girl when things go out of the norm.
So, IMO, before getting involved with a girl, aside from qualifying and screening her hard, to learn to take your ego out of it and not let her praises make you feel so on top of everyone else because the higher you invest your ego into a girl the more wabbly your self made pedestal (built upon by her) can get, and the higher and harder you can fall.
So, stay real to yourself and remember it's ok to appreciate such praises, but refrain from letting it define you.
It's all to common, that when a girl's praise gets to a guys head, it can become detrimental to his previous self fed validation. We can forget that girls use such tactis (many subconscious tools of manipulation) to gain favorability over other females, to where the male becomes dependent upon his woman as the female force that qualifies his masculine identity.
This, I believe, is what leads many guys to narrowing their indifference down to a more emotionally fragile position with a woman, to where he takes a tighter grasp on his woman in fear she will put her praises onto other males. Threat of compettion then raises if she starts to stray from her common routine of making him feel like
1) He is the most special guy over any other guy
2) Where straying from him is impossible
3) That he can loosen up and not care so much in keeping his game sharp
4) That she is different than any other girl
5) That her feelings of him become more important than his own
You get the idea I'm sure.
This becomes an illusion he falls into as he becomes more enchanted by her and how she inflates his ego. This can create judgemental and over sensitive ways of perceiving his and the girls relationship, especially when his identity becomes caught up in this perfect image of guy/ girl bliss. However, it's not until he is so far in that dissenchantment comes at a cost of losing his sense of self, and fighting over suspisions with his girl when things go out of the norm.
So, IMO, before getting involved with a girl, aside from qualifying and screening her hard, to learn to take your ego out of it and not let her praises make you feel so on top of everyone else because the higher you invest your ego into a girl the more wabbly your self made pedestal (built upon by her) can get, and the higher and harder you can fall.
So, stay real to yourself and remember it's ok to appreciate such praises, but refrain from letting it define you.