foomee
Senior Don Juan
Has anyone ever done that? I thought maybe it would ease my tension and help me loosen up.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Take a shot or two before a date?
- Thread starter foomee
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
You'll smell like booze. Do a couple shots with her on the date if you like, but drinking to "loosen up" beforehand is a touch on the alcoholic side. I have drank plenty at inappropriate times, so I'm in no position to look down on anyone, but it's still a bad idea.
For a second there I thought you were referring to the suggestion of jerking off before a date to calm you down.
I would do neither.
Just go with the attitude to have fun and make a friend and not worry about impressing her or worry that you will fvck up somehow. Things will work out better if you are calm beforehand and thinking positively.
I would do neither.
Just go with the attitude to have fun and make a friend and not worry about impressing her or worry that you will fvck up somehow. Things will work out better if you are calm beforehand and thinking positively.
ValleyDJing
Master Don Juan
I say thats a pretty good idea if you're not driving. I like to show up to parties a little tipsy already, helps me mix right into the flow. Hell, during Christmas time at my work (we do a lot of sales) all the employees throw back a couple of shots in the backroom before work. Helps you loosen up and be friendlier/more outgoing. Sales then becomes so much easier. What can I say? I'm a little alcohol dependent? Its a magical substance.
Whatever you do though, please brush your teeth and chew some gum to make sure you're breath doesn't smell of alcohol.
Whatever you do though, please brush your teeth and chew some gum to make sure you're breath doesn't smell of alcohol.
I love alcohol. It totally loosens me up. It makes me a nicer, more funny, more ****y, more open and a more assertive person. Hell, if it was legal i would drink all day. During work AND in the car. Nah, just kidding.
Hard liqur is more powerful then any gum or toothpaste, it will always win. Especially dark stuff like Whiskey. There is ONE exception, and that's vodka. Don't ask me why, but it is a known fact (go look it up on wiki if you don't believe me). That is the ONLY liqur that doesn't make your breath smell like alcohol, unless you drink a whole bottle of course. Try it.
Hard liqur is more powerful then any gum or toothpaste, it will always win. Especially dark stuff like Whiskey. There is ONE exception, and that's vodka. Don't ask me why, but it is a known fact (go look it up on wiki if you don't believe me). That is the ONLY liqur that doesn't make your breath smell like alcohol, unless you drink a whole bottle of course. Try it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What exactly do you want to set loose?foomee said:
~attrACTION~
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Good point. You definitely have to get tipsy before the party.ValleyDJing said:
As for dates...never tried taking shots before...during yeah, but not before. How are you going to drive? But I have tried drugs (before a date...and of course at other times too). I wouldn't recommend either. Drinking is cool, but in moderation. If you have to drink to get relaxed for a date, you may want to work on your confidence a bit. You shouldn't rely on a substance like that. I know how it is to be dependent on something, so if you're not careful it can lead to addiction/abuse. Whatever you do, be careful and be safe. Good luck.
foomee
Senior Don Juan
So I ended up not taking any shots and the date went pretty well. We had a lot of fun and everything. It's not going to go anywhere cos she's sorta dating this other guy, but as long as I had fun... I think that's all that matters. 