Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Tae Kwon Do sparring class?

skd

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Are there any schools, coaches, or seminars that deal specifically with TKD sparring?

I've been to 3 separate TKD schools, total of about 9 years experience now. However, none of the schools ever really concentrated on sparring so I suck at it and I want to change that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm just not as good at sparring as I should be considering my rank. Anyways, I'll be (hopefully) going to Korea in a year or two to study abroad, so I'll check it out then, if no one can suggest anything.

(the schools were WTF by the way)
 

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Find an ATA school - American Tae Kwon Do Association. I'm a currently a red belt and I can tell you that they focus primarily on sparring, also weapons training at black belt. I've been competing since green and although I've only placed 1st on a couple of occasions, I usually take 2nd place trophies at tournaments.
 

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Why not spar with your friends from class outside the dojo (and other dojos)?

Besides, if you're only sparring tae kwon do inside the dojo, then you're only sparring fighters of one style. You want to spar with the widest variety of opponents and styles as possible.

I guess it comes down to what your goals for sparring are. If it's self defense, then sparring one style is extremely limiting. You could be in for a real azz-kicking if the first time you fight against styles like akido or jujitsu is in a real fight.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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GC: The main reason for sparring is not for self-defense, I just feel that my TKD instruction is incomplete. In any case, I plan to study other martial arts later to become a better martial artist in general. Oh, and none of my friends are in martial arts. Only me :(

Rollo: Thanks for the heads-up on ATA, I never would've considered it but I checked out their web site and I think an ATA school might be just what I want.
 

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Originally posted by skd
Are there any schools, coaches, or seminars that deal specifically with TKD sparring?

There are a lot more effective martial arts styles to study. I have a black belt in TKD and consider 70% of the techniques worthless. I eventaully wised up and stopped paying 60 a month for this style. Anyone with a background in Muay Thai or grappling will immediately clinch and put you on your back.

If you want to be a complete martial artist then you need to cross train in striking and grappling. the best styles are Jiu Jitsu, wrestling, Sambo,and Muay Thai. Muay Thai will teach you proper striking without any of the flashy BS. In Jiu Jitsu you'll learn takedowns and ground fighting.
 

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Personally i dont consider TKD a martial art.. its less combat orientated than rugby. (sorry if this is harsh but i'v trained in TKD myself and its worthless without crosstraining)

But if we look at it as a sport which you wish to improve in.. do some research into other clubs in your area and go along for a session. If they adequetly cover sparring give em a shot.

Another idea is to research which club has been winning all the tournaments.. i bet they'd have a greator focus on sparring.

To add two to good martial arts to dust 2 dust's list:

Kyokushinkai karate
Boxing
 
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