"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Tactics versus inner game

MackJr

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I post this because people think that there's some sort of contradiction between the two. There's not. True, having a strong inner game is what really attracts women. However, the tactics are the way that that inner game is expressed. No one knows whats *inside* you until you say or do something.

So go ahead and learn the tactics, then go out on the field to practice them, so that you'll learn when to apply them, and as a result, internalize them.

As an example, no one thinks about nouns, verbs, and grammar when they're writing a paper, but if you're a professional writer, you have to go back to those basics and master them individually before you go back to writing "naturally", so to speak.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Damian

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Amen...

A lot of aspiring DJ's out there just sometimes don't get it. It's about internalizing what you research. Finding what works and doesn't work, then finding a way to express your own style.

-Damian
 
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