Tackling shy, insecure girls

[Nikar]

Hi all,

Apparently, most of the stuff in this forum and the DJ Bible are mostly aimed at tackling HB8 - HB10 types who are full of arrogance, aloofness and confidence.

Now, where I work, there's this chick who has the face of a HB8.5 or even HB9, although she's rather petite and doesn't have the body of a goddess, but her figure is overall sweet and cute and the face rules all.
You guys probably think that girls like this will have an aura of confidence and unbreakable shield blah blah blah....but this chick is rather shy, and more crucially, her behavior seems to be pretty insecure and inconfident.

For example, she's always adjusting her clothes and hair to make sure they don't look ugly 90% of the time in the office. Doesn't dare to make too much eye contact with members of the opposite sex (eyes always look down or elsewhere when I talk to her nicely). Doesn't like to open up too much. She has lots of friends outside work, although I'm not too sure if her "ocean of friends" are to make herself feel more confident and protected.

And because this chick is insecure deep down, I don't really think the C+F tactics will work too well on her, because by using it and teasing her etc., she'll feel even more insecure and inferior, although obviously she's a hottie.

I don't think being a "nice guy" will work too well with her either. I tried to be a 100% nice guy and now I can sense that she's getting sick of me. I wanna turn the tides before it gets too late.

So, my main concern is : how do you exploit this kinda insecure, shy but hot pretty girl? How do you get her to open up and trust you? Obviously, she thinks I'm unsafe to be with, and that sucks for me (come on, I'm no pervert). I mean, I have no problem with other chicks and getting them to trust me and all, but this girl is very hard to crack and I don't wanna Next-he so easily, because she's super demure and sweet and I salivate at the thought of it.

Thanks all!
Nikar.

 

[djSlvt]

I'm not going to answer your Q, because I think, and this is only me, that girl has to deserve me, qualify to be with me. A chick you describing is not qualified to be with me, so I could care less. In other words I take it as gaming a fat chick. It's IMO.. If I was doing something like this I'd think I have lowered my bar, that would really hurt my game and make me feel crap.


Now about the girl. She could just trying to be professional at the office. You can't game a woman like that at the office. You need to be your player self (you are, right), but you must follow the protocol, so that she's compfortable with you. Ask her out or meet her any place but the work place.

You telling me that you tried nice guy AFC stuff on her and now you gonna try something else, just tells me that she already has you in the average basket. So, and this is again IMO, you have no future with her.



Why does djSlvt not into girls like that? Because to fvck a woman you need to talk to her self not her persona. If a girl is too stuck up you could never or it's too difficult to break through her persona, it's just not worth my time. My time's too valuable and there is too many b1tches to go around. She'd has to be VERY hot and has to send those AIs to me, otherwise I'm not gonna try sh1t with her.


IMO I believe 100% that every woman wants to be treated like a little girl and every woman wants a pimp. You have to break through her shell and get what you want, the longer it takes you, the lesser the chance for anything happening. With time, your failed repeated attempts set up a frame between you two, you can guess what it is.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I don't think she digs you too much or she's extremley stuck up/shy.

Move on..