T002 Always be postive
Have you ever wondered why you want somit so much you never get it?... it's because you let the fear of you not getting it effect your actions.
I Just read the thread "A game you can always win" ,..and it brought back too my mind what I was thinking the other day so i thought I'd write it up here.
Which is Turn everything into a postive no matter what the outcome is or could be.
I've read it so many times on this board, that if you make an approach you have nothing too lose, and even if you get turned down you still win because you have gained confidence/skills and you also know for sure that she would turn you down instead of having too wonder what if...that is the exact right attitude too have with almost everything you do.
Pressure / Fear / needness etc, effects the outcome of what you want too achieve and can be a barrier which in the end stops you from getting what you want.
You have too be Prepared / willing too Lose what you want too achieve because it will push you fowards and give you the upper hand in any circumstance.
Every thing can be turned into a postive heres some quick examples...
i) You are with the girl of your dreams and fear she might leave you for someone else, or cheat on you.
The fact you are scared of losing her will show in you actions / attitude and in the end can turn her away from you cause you show her you are clingy or needy when In reality if you are prepard too lose her, you have more chance of keeping her, it would really be her loss too lose you because you know your the prize not her she should be worried about you leaving her!. Just think of all the fun you have finding a new woman of your dreams and another thing is you wouldn't be tied down no longer with the same person,.. i could list hundreds of reasons why u shouldn't worry bout losing someone but i wont.
ii) Your home is burnt down too the ground, you have no insurance and your whole family was inside and burnt too death. (;D I know, it's a bit much but i just want too show how praticully everything can be turned into a positive!)
It takes a great amount of determination and emotional strength too get over something like that a rebuild your life again, not many people get the opportunity too do that, you will end up such a better person for it,.... ;D and just think no more moaning from your family! lol
iii) You are going for a Job interview and u see this job as your big opportunity and it is the only chance you'l ever get your dream job. This is the only job you want.
It will show in your interview and your performance if you are thinking like that, it will be on your mind for days before maybe affecting other parts of your life and your sleep... You would be under so much pressure it would greatly affect your chances of getting the job... If you look at it in different ways it will help, think if you don't get the job of the exerience, at least you had an interview for this company / workplace, and that you tried instead of wondering and that now your mind is clear you know you can move on from it and look for other exciting jobs too do,...list all te negatives (every single thing about the job u can think of no matter how small) i.e was it further too drive than your old job?... you didn't know anyone there right? the food wasn't vey nice in their canteen was it? ..what about the boss, he seemed a bit stuck up didnt he/...etc
So basically, the idea is too always turn thing into a postive , this will take emotionally stres off in your life and improve how people see you, your attitude and improve your chances with things by taking the pressure off yourself and by adding the emphasis too them..do this by using positive of the outcome/possible outcomes/ (things you don't want too happen so much) .. and adding focus of the negatives too the things / outcomes you really want so you are prepared too lose hem if u must.
Alex
Have you ever wondered why you want somit so much you never get it?... it's because you let the fear of you not getting it effect your actions.
I Just read the thread "A game you can always win" ,..and it brought back too my mind what I was thinking the other day so i thought I'd write it up here.
Which is Turn everything into a postive no matter what the outcome is or could be.
I've read it so many times on this board, that if you make an approach you have nothing too lose, and even if you get turned down you still win because you have gained confidence/skills and you also know for sure that she would turn you down instead of having too wonder what if...that is the exact right attitude too have with almost everything you do.
Pressure / Fear / needness etc, effects the outcome of what you want too achieve and can be a barrier which in the end stops you from getting what you want.
You have too be Prepared / willing too Lose what you want too achieve because it will push you fowards and give you the upper hand in any circumstance.
Every thing can be turned into a postive heres some quick examples...
i) You are with the girl of your dreams and fear she might leave you for someone else, or cheat on you.
The fact you are scared of losing her will show in you actions / attitude and in the end can turn her away from you cause you show her you are clingy or needy when In reality if you are prepard too lose her, you have more chance of keeping her, it would really be her loss too lose you because you know your the prize not her she should be worried about you leaving her!. Just think of all the fun you have finding a new woman of your dreams and another thing is you wouldn't be tied down no longer with the same person,.. i could list hundreds of reasons why u shouldn't worry bout losing someone but i wont.
ii) Your home is burnt down too the ground, you have no insurance and your whole family was inside and burnt too death. (;D I know, it's a bit much but i just want too show how praticully everything can be turned into a positive!)
It takes a great amount of determination and emotional strength too get over something like that a rebuild your life again, not many people get the opportunity too do that, you will end up such a better person for it,.... ;D and just think no more moaning from your family! lol
iii) You are going for a Job interview and u see this job as your big opportunity and it is the only chance you'l ever get your dream job. This is the only job you want.
It will show in your interview and your performance if you are thinking like that, it will be on your mind for days before maybe affecting other parts of your life and your sleep... You would be under so much pressure it would greatly affect your chances of getting the job... If you look at it in different ways it will help, think if you don't get the job of the exerience, at least you had an interview for this company / workplace, and that you tried instead of wondering and that now your mind is clear you know you can move on from it and look for other exciting jobs too do,...list all te negatives (every single thing about the job u can think of no matter how small) i.e was it further too drive than your old job?... you didn't know anyone there right? the food wasn't vey nice in their canteen was it? ..what about the boss, he seemed a bit stuck up didnt he/...etc
So basically, the idea is too always turn thing into a postive , this will take emotionally stres off in your life and improve how people see you, your attitude and improve your chances with things by taking the pressure off yourself and by adding the emphasis too them..do this by using positive of the outcome/possible outcomes/ (things you don't want too happen so much) .. and adding focus of the negatives too the things / outcomes you really want so you are prepared too lose hem if u must.
Alex
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