"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Sweet lullabies to rock a chump to a comfy, thumb sucking sleep.

AgentofChaos

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Some women love to play a fool for the love-starved fool he is.

Call him baby, sweetie, honey, darling, you're the best, you have the biggest diick, and all that jazz

Is there an ulterior motive to the sweet talk?

How do you handle getting your head gassed up? Brag about it to your bros? Thump your chest? Get paranoid and go into shiit test passing neurotics? Or see through the manipulation and play it cool?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I usually reciprocate compliments like that. Some of what you mentioned as examples are not to be taken literally, like being the best or having the biggest d!ck because we all know the former can change and the latter is just not true. They're meant as compliments, a show of affection.

But I guess there's tons of guys out there eager to sabotage themselves with their cynicism or are so dumb they let it inflate their egos. I don't see it as manipulation by default, I can easily determine whether or not they have motives beyond simply showing affection. If they do then I'll tell them my observation, if they deny it then they've moved on to lying which again I easily detect and that's the point I turn around to walk away. Mostly I'm just cool with it though and happily reciprocate.

Always stay sharp, observe and listen carefully. Take appropriate action with the information collected. Manipulation and lies by use of compliments aren't hard at all to detect, but if you accuse someone of it when they genuinely did not do it then you've fvcked up.

Act on information, not assumptions.
 

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I was hoping this thread would have relaxing songs to help me fall asleep. I'm disappointed.
 
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